about that second baby…

Grief isn't just about what was and was lost, but a future that no longer is possible. My only wish for you and your family is that whatever the future looks like, be it another pregnancy, an adoption, or simply the joys of your amazing son growing up, that you never forget that you will be able to find love and joy again even though it feels so hard and overwhelming right now.

As someone who's had 12 miscarriages, I have the greatest sympathy for you. I never had a child, but I have a stepson whom I adore. I also mentor kids whom I also adore. One calls me her dream mom. It all usually works out. Best of luck for Rupert's little sibling.

so sorry Jessica and Claudia ❤ sending you so much love

I wish people would STOP asking couples anything about having babies! It's SO intrusive! It's none of anyone's business

I was pregnant the same time you were pregnant and I thought oh how fun for us to all go in this journey together. Then I lost the baby. I had to stop watching for a bit because it was too painful but I made it through and have a beautiful baby now. This is all hard and not talked about enough. No one can ever say the right thing and you never know what someone is going through.

I'm so sorry. I tried to get pregnant for 11 years before my firstborn. Pregnancy loss is so devastating.

As someone who has had a biochemical pregnancy, it still feels just as awful as how a miscarriage would. It’s still traumatizing. It’s still something you have to grieve over. I hope you both can find peace and comfort, despite how hard those both can be. Wishing you the best.

I promise you age makes no difference to closeness. My sister and I are only 13 months apart and we are completely no contact. I hope this is never the case for your kids, but the shared culture that we had didn’t help us at all form a lasting relationship. Just remember that ultimately you aren’t responsible for how your children relate to each other outside teaching them to be empathetic and kind.

i'm sorry. this looked like a hard video to make. i know you can't see the finish line now cuz you're right in the middle of it, but you have so many people cheering in your corner 💖

my brother and i are 13 years apart and i hated it too until i got older and we found ways to bond eventually, dont worry about rupert not bonding with a little sibling, with the amazing parents he has, hes gonna be the best big brother ever

If it helps, my sister and I are 6 years apart and we’re extremely close. She can be a mentor of sorts to me since she’s been through the stages of life that I’m going through at the moment. We still saw the same movies at the cinema, I was just a bit mature for my age. And I got to be more of my own person than kids who are closer in age—teachers who taught her didn’t say, “oh you’re Sarah’s sister” because teachers moved around in the district or retired before I got there. She was two years younger than our brother and was always known as “Zack’s sister.” What I’m trying to say is try not to stress too much about keeping them close in age. There are great reasons to have kids close in age and great reasons to have them farther apart in age. You’ll discover those reasons either way ❤

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m also a lesbian mom and we got pregnant very easily the first time and struggled the second time. I was completely unprepared and it was heart wrenching.

To give you guys another perspective, my sister and I are 15 months apart and have never, ever gotten along. Our relationship is extremely strained. Meanwhile, my husband and his brother are 5 years apart and couldn't be closer! Additionally, I'm also an IVF patient--going through my first pregnancy now also after a bunch of failed IUIs and a failed fresh transfer--and just wanted to let you know that I feel for you and this stuff is so hard, so unfair, and such a whirlwind. Keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for success for you!

My aunt struggled a lot to get pregnant a second time. My cousin kept asking her for a little brother, but she wasn’t able to conceive no matter how much she tried. She then got him a puppy. A couple of months later she was pregnant at 39. The little one is now 11. It’s a different journey each time around. Surround yourselves with people who care about you. We’ll be here rooting for Rupert’s little sibling regardless. ❤

I'm childfree, so I was hesitant to click on this video, but I'm glad I did in the end, because I'm grateful for how you both share these vulnerable moments with your audience, letting us know that these struggles are universal in a way, and it's ok to take the time to grieve.

i feel like this video really solidified how well matched jessica and claudia are. they really seem complete each other i really love how claudia carried the video when jessica got emotional. it was honestly so heart warming to see. wishing you the best of luck 💗👶🏼

Im so sorry you guys are going through this. Losing a pregnancy, whether biochemical, viable, or otherwise, is extremely heartbreaking and difficult to go through. There's nothing anyone can say to make it better but judging by your comments section you are definitely not alone and have lots of love coming your way. <3

I have five siblings ranging from 18 months to 16 years apart. The ones I'm the closest to are not the the ones I'm closest in age to.Your concern about wanting them close in age is valid to your lived experience, but siblings can form amazing bonds, regardless of the difference in age! I wish you luck on your Fertility journey ❤

I’m an only child and I still see moments over 30 years later where my parents express regret at not being able to give me a sibling — which I wish they didn’t feel, because I truly have had a wonderful life even without siblings! And I never doubt how much my parents love me, either. But fertility issues are SO tough to deal with, and I hope you both get all the support you need ❤

Everyone always has some unsolicited advice when it comes to having a baby. I had a miscarriage in December 2022, it was the worst time of my life, especially as we already knew we would have fertility issues before we started trying. Since then I've had people asking "so when are you going to get pregnant again?". If only it was that easy! It breaks my heart every time to hear them ask because we would desperately love to become parents. All I can say is prioritise yourselves and talk to each other, don't ever become closed off because it hurts so much more ❤