Cultivating Self-Compassion & Eliminating Negative Self-Talk

Everything's in a mess AND all is well... Mistakes are our teachers. They come from our ignorance (not knowing), therefore unavoidable. We are all ignorant in one area or another, otherwise we wouldn't be in Earth School anymore. Mistakes result in suffering (having negative thoughts and feelings). Suffering directs our attention to within, prompts self-exploration and evaluation, the identification of the mistake (when, where, why and how the mistake was made) as one attempts to avoid future suffering. If successful, the result is growth. The ability to see a past action or belief as a mistake is the result of a new, higher level of consciousness, from which the shortcomings of the previous, lower level of consciousness can be observed. The path is challenging, but the results are worth all the effort. Thank you Nada for sharing the pearls of your gentle wisdom, they are much appreciated.

Being outcast from family & society, I struggle daily with self hatred. I definitely needed your advice, much gratitude.

You're so calming.

the emotion in your voice, i can tell YOU have compassion for those of us who don’t show ourselves kindness. your videos are helping me awaken thank you 💜

We were not nurtured to cultivate self love and compassion for ourselves because it is seen as being selfish, non-caring towards others; we are told to impress others to make someone else happy and disregard our own happiness, therefore we are hard on ourselves. We need to be more in tune to our inner being to become one.

I love my child within, my child inside needs my support from my adult self, I have become a loving parent to a beautiful self that has been growing up with compassion and wisdom!!! Many blessings to those who have had trauma as a child, love your self and open up to your self to any kind of healing that keeps your soul loving!!! Be mindful to your heart ❤️

I am really enjoying your thoughtful videos. Having been brought up in a family with a narcissistic mother who called me a bitch since I was young, I developed very negative self talk which developed into self destructive behavior. I’m 56 now and I’m putting the pieces of my life together. I believe we must make amends with our past to have peace in the present. For me, this meant me revisiting painful experiences during meditation which brought me to tears and than patting my chest or rubbing my heart while I said in a comforting voice, “it’s ok baby.... you did the best you could.....it is the past.....you are safe now.” I speak to myself like I would speak to a young child and I’ve to practiced this many times and I really feel it has helped me tremendously on my healing journey.

Wow. Best spiritual channel I’ve come across in a long while. No fake bullshit. Love and appreciate your existence. Thank you for using this platform to help others heal, you have a gift!

I'm deeply grateful for sharing your thoughts here on YouTube. Your voice is so gentle and loving, I could listen to you for hours. Because you aren't afraid of showing your flaws, struggle and imperfection I really can identify with you - can see myself in you and feel compassion. We don't need to be enlightened. Everything is perfect just how it is, including us.

Thank you so much, I meditated as I was listening to you and I decided to write to my parents. Im 31, almost 32, and I feel like the child and teenager inside of me is still suffering, so before I start my own family with my loved one (which is a fantastic person :) I'm so lucky) I want to free myself with the truth. And as I realize the truth is not easy but its all love in the end. II encourage myself to do this cause I know it's the right way, and it will help me forgive myself and others. I pray for you all with peace, love and compassion.

Thank you I had a bad childhood and one of my issues is attachment issues and fear of change. It helped to think of someone else and what I might say to them. It is not my fault and I have grown and am still growing. I need to be more compassionate with myself and believe in myself and be there for myself just as I would be there for another.

The calmness in the voice is clearly different from Loud Preachers, who are like con artist. Beautiful video.

When you realized you were that friend you were longing to have and looking for... We are our own worst enemy and our own best friend. Pick a side 🙂 I had that realization when I was thinking about my friends. I love all of them but then I don't feel appreciated by them. I always found a reason why they might not love me the same as I love them. I would literally ruin myself for them a million little times if I have to. I am so careful to not hurt them in any way. I am willing to drop everything just to pay attention to them and give them everything I have and all my time if they so, please. I was always there for them. Listening, understanding them and making them feel that they are not alone. Not when they have me. I wanted to have a friend that appreciates me, that listens and understands me. Who genuinely cares. Yet when I am the one needing comfort and a friend, there was no one. I was silent one time for a whole day, they were sitting beside me, not even a greeting thrown my way. Sadness is obviously written across my face. I didn't expect them to comfort me, but inside, I was silently wanting to be heard, to be cared for, to be comforted. But the day ended with me apologizing for not talking to them because perhaps they wanted to give me space. I apologized for not socializing with them, for not laughing with them. They said what was I talking about. That they didn't even notice that I was a little bit different that day. It hurt but I didn't say anything and just laughed it off. Maybe I was just being silly and overthinking. It made me realize that if I were not to talk to them, they wouldn't talk to me at all unless they needed something from me. A company, a listener, or whatever use I am to them. But when I was the one in need, there was no one. Then I realized that the friend I was wanting to have, was myself. I was all that I needed. I envy them for being treated that way by me, yet I was such a monster to myself. I just told myself that at least I was able to give love and I know that I was capable of it. I wanted me to love me. And slowly, I was trying to build that relationship with myself. It's awkward and a bit difficult when you were so used to hating yourself. You know everything about yourself so it's about what you will do with that knowledge. But at the same time, you feel lost and confused about who you really are. I was silently a little bit hating on them for not being the friend I needed. But I realized that I was the problem and not them. That not everyone will fit my "perfect friend fantasy". That maybe they also have their own storm and conflict inside of them. I have to understand that. And with that, I expected less from people. Just let them be themselves and stop projecting yourself, your own beliefs and standards to them. Because they were doing their best with the knowledge that they had at that time. Knowledge is power when you use it. So even when you know something and is not using them, it's useless. But it's their own problem. It's our own problem to deal with ourselves. Everyone is in their own journey and pace. We can only guide each other and empower each other but at the end of the day, it's all up to us to choose for ourselves. We are gifted with freedom after all. Thanks for attending my TED talk 🙂 May you find happiness. Lots of love to you my friend✨💖 Edit: messed up word positioning. If only we can also relive a moment and avoid a mistake, yet learning won't happen without making mistakes right?

I don't know who put you and your videos on my path, but I'm forever thankful for it. This was all I needed to here right now. I couldn't find a better timing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

I’ve watched many of these types of videos and heard their messages.. but none have been as clear or resignate with me as much as yours do. Thank you

I'm so relieved to have found your channel. I really need the beautiful messages and guidance that you provide. Love, light and peace to you.

Thank you my brother , I enjoy and learn from all your videos. I’m at that proverbial cross road in my life no wife , no girlfriend, son is in college and it’s just me. I’m trying to fine tune what I have already created. I like to think I’m a good person already but there’s always room to grow.

OMG... You hit the nail on the head at 8:55 when you said that most of the negative self talk is from others outside of ourselves. I never realized this. That is incredibly eye-opening because when I get mad at myself for making mistakes I hear other's voices saying "You idiot, how could you? Or, "You're so stupid you can't do anything right!" Now you've made me aware that those statements start with "You..." or "You're..." That said, you just shared something new I hadn't heard yet. Thank you, and Be Blessed for sharing your insight 🙏♥

Speak to yourself like you would speak to your 3 year old self .. ❤️