Here's Why Trauma Is So Common (A Deep Dive Into Understanding Trauma)

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate."

I can’t believe this is free. I have a therapist but I come to this channel to “do my homework” so to speak. A video like this is like half an hour of straightforward answers that feel so specific to me yet can also be applied very broadly. I’m so so thankful I found this channel, I can objectively say I’ve improved since I began watching. It feels like “the answer” to all my problems is here.

It took me so long to realize I had trauma. I've seen so many psychologists, but none of them mentionned trauma. They only focused on depression or anxiety. I never realized trauma could manifest in so many different ways. I thought it was all just symptoms of anxiety or depression, or weakness from my part. My friends in high school had trauma because they were sexually abused, so to me it was impossible to imagine I could have trauma since some people had it so much worse than me.

I like how in the beginning he starts explain what trauma can look like and he is describing every single behavior I do lol.

how is this guy so f***n good? I feel like he would be able to raise the best children. He knows so much about development, abuse, trauma, self compassion, vulnerability, fears, depression and anxiety. This guy is WAY better than most therapists. And the content he provides is outstanding. The next generation are lucky if they can utilise this information in a patient, well-meaning, balanced way.

When i was growing up in a traumatic environment, i would constantly daydream. But it was very directed daydreaming in a distinctly different world where i would take the conflict that was happening in my life and make scenarios where it could be resolved with differently temperamented characters. These plays are what i atribute my servival to. And they aslo ended up teaching me how to be a good parent and partner in the a safer life i have now.

Not to sound cliche, but this video was like waking up from the matrix and seeing all of the machinery inside my own brain for the first time. This man has helped me more in 37 minutes than years of seeing pill slinging psychiatrists and pathetic attempts at getting therapy.

Hey, if anyone reading this started off identifying with the expressions of trauma but then didn't think Dr. K.'s description of coercive control fit how they were raised, and then felt ashamed like, "I guess I'm just naturally shitty after all," please seek out more comprehensive information on C-PTSD and childhood trauma. Emotional neglect, parentification, and a wide variety of other parenting styles are traumatic. As a child, in order to affect the world around you to solve your problems, you actually need a ton of support, care, love, and acceptance from your caregivers. You need to be protected from things that would be too overwhelming, but not so protected that you can't develop your self-efficacy. You need a secure attachment to someone who doesn't abandon you or use you to meet their needs. Lacking any of those puts you in the same situation as coercive control. I really like a therapist here on YouTube called Patrick Teahan, whose whole focus is on healing diverse types of childhood family of origin trauma. And sending compassion for you! Like Dr. K. said, you may be in pieces but you're not broken and you can heal.

Another thing that struck me was around 21:30. I’ve internalized so many things and I’m constantly turning inward and seeing where I need to fix myself or heal myself or improve myself, because I’m terrified of actually talking to another person about what I need from our relationship. “I must be the one at fault” or “I must be the one who is failing.” It makes it so hard to have a cooperative relationship with someone because I feel like I have to be the one who carries everything.

Trauma has impacted every single decision I’ve made in my life. It’s really sad. This video helps.

I've been watching your content for a while now and you can't imagine how much it helped me. I feel that this topic is extremely important in today's world. Thank you for everything Dr K. It is not much money but I hope it helps. Have a great day!

"Trauma is the goldmine to transform your life." What a beautiful quote. I'm going to write that on my whiteboard.

The more I learn about trauma, the more I believe that my "treatment-resistant depression" is really unresolved trauma.

"we're gonna be doing a deep dive into understanding trauma" sick beat drop

I have met only one other person in my life who understands the workings of the human mind like this guy does. Very rare and special person and he is willing to share his knowledge on this platform for free. How blessed are we to have someone so giving.

I always thought trauma perpetuates trauma. I noticed people have unhealed trauma and they traumatise other people by raging for example, and the "receiving end of the rager" then tend to dismiss them for being rude, assholes, etc. but if those people then take it personal, they are also traumatised by the occurance and might then rage themselves to someone else later on. I call it the bicycle analogy because a friend once wanted to steal a bike and I asked him why. He said: because somebody stole mine. I then replied: but you will do the same thing to another person who will then also steal a bike themselves. what if the person who stole your bike also had their bike stolen? It then spread to other contexts, like bullying, manipulating, cheating and .. trauma. In case you got curious: Friend didn't steal that bike

Emotional neglect is also very traumatizing tho. There wasn't coercive control, but there was the same sense of helplessness--nothing I did mattered, because nobody cared about me one way or the other.

This stream is a certified classic HealthyGamer Video - absolute banger

Bro I've been needing this video for years, it's been so hard to try and fix my problems because my brain literally wouldn't let me do it. It felt like there had just been some block in my head, stopping me from doing anything

"Trauma is the great Chamelion. It looks like a lot of other things." Very true. CPTSD often gets confused for anxiety and depression. Or worse clinicians don't even know what it is. As someone with a somewhat high ACE score and recent traumas from abusive and/ or toxic workplaces trauma this is helpful. Everyone needs to learn about this - especially after going through 2020 (Dr. Gabor Mate talk a lot about this as societal and mass trauma)