Love, Lust & Commitment Discussion | Afest
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Published 2017-11-28
When it comes to online dating, how do you catch the attention of potential suitors? Does it really boil down to your profile photo and dating preferences?
In this interactive talk at A-Fest about sexuality and relationships, a panel of relationship experts starring Marissa Peer, Esther Perel, and Dan Savage, informs us that there are several personality variables that you need to focus on when dating in the digital age.
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In this video, "Love, Lust & Commitment Discussion" Mindvalley CEO Vishen Lakhiani and relationship experts host an interactive Q & A on modern dating and give valuable relationship tips.
VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS
02:52 Mistakes women usually do with their partners
04:20 Stop trying to change things that are not gonna change
08:05 Three doors of entry into sex
10:41 If there would be a new relationship vow like a marriage vow, what would it be?
13:20 How would you deal with someone who is not fully present with you?
15:37 What is the one thing that is a current struggle in relationships and how to resolve them?
19:10 Sex is the glue which makes a relationship really special
22:55 How the spouses became the best friend?
24:46 Is the container in which we're defining relationships today flawed in some way?
30:06 There is only one commitment that is repeated twice in the Bible
34:50 How to deal with the mind?
39:37 Is there a particular exercise or ritual or practice that you think one can integrate their relationship to create a more enjoyable beautiful experience?
44:42 We come on the planet for two needs
46:20 Why sexual compatibility is huge?
52:41 Q/A between Esther Perel, Dan Savage & Marisa Peer
59:12 Closing piece of advice
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Along with having a strong connection, the relationship experts on the panel discussed the importance of couples investing the energy to focus on their sexuality.
By incorporating creativity and romanticism into your marriage or relationship, the panel of relationship experts believe this a sure way to fulfill relationship goals and prevent divorce from happening in the futur
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I love how Esther is still thinking so intensely whilst the others are speaking.
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You guys, instead of seeing this as a competition between speakers, you should value each one of them, because they see the problem from different angles. Marisa talks about overcoming the pathology that highjacks our love lives, which is reaaaaly important to be aware of and figure out before anything else, as it is the root cause of the most love-life misery nowadays. Esther does not approach solving pathology, but she really pinpoints some subtle dynamics that happen in any relationship, which really gives us a much needed awareness of our daily choices and actions impacting our love lifes on the long run. Dan is also really cutting through the cheese and giving us some radical truths, especially when he says that we're always alone, even in a relationship, and that's ok, and it's actually essential to preserve your individuality in the relationship, because that's what made the other fall in love. They're all brilliant.
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All three speakers are brilliant, but Esther's charm and charisma is just unreal!! Great discussion, thanks
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What I like about this panel is how they all are different people with different mindsets which makes it easier to relate to them because all of them are right in their own way. Just not everything works for everyone and that’s more than okay, that’s life!
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I feel like a different person after hearing Esther. Her mind is amazing.
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"that I will do things for you just because it's you, even so, I would never wanna do this and that should be good enough, I don't have to want what you want in order to do it - you are a perfectly valid reason for me to do so... "
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Marissa has helped me so much with her exact advice, she drops the extra unnecessary words to get right to the point... I struggled with all these brilliant speakers.. I would get distracted or forget or get completely lost with too much info... but she gets right to the core..”I am enough” everyday, thank you marissa
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Esther Perel is absolutely incredible! She blows my mind!
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The chair of this panel discussion is very skilled within his role. He gives clear, articulate and respectful guidance and structure to accommodate three rather different personality types. Very admirable
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Ester Perel is just brilliant! I wish I could have a session with her . Nothing is too complex or too simple , she really gets to the point . ❤️😘
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Loved this: “There are many more people we can love ❤️ than people we can make a life with.”
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At 35:00 onwards, Ester Perel is the Queen. A complete master! Mind blowing brilliance.
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I CAN truthfully say Marisa was totally time worthy and smooth on my ears.
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Esther’s comment on best friends/partners is amazing. So insightful
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Esther is a genius!! “I will text them” but what she’s said about the new vow is exactly why I have decided to accept my mother in law living with us..
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Through therapy I learned where my pain came from in my childhood and how I repeated those patterns with others in my adult life, trying to fix or heal those wounds (or so I thought.) But what I never realized, until now, was that over the years I had become, in a way, addicted to unworthiness. I automatically seek out ways to validate my unworthiness and sabotage my relationships. Now that I am aware, I keep catching myself and then stop myself from following through with the negative thought. I was projecting my feelings of unworthiness onto him. Thank goodness I'm married to a truly loving and wonderful man who deserves a wife who actually loves herself too.
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They all complement each other and have valid points.
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Been listening a lot to Marisa and Esther and it's great having them in conversation. Don't know the man but what he says makes a lot of sense, kind of agree with all of them even when they're disagreeing.
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There is really a sense of calmness about Esther when she talks. Very visionary in her approach to relationships. Awesome takeaways from her.
