Will Getting Laid Help You Move On?

During my divorce my then wife told me I’d never have sex again for the rest of my life. What a mean ass thing to say

Not only do I have no desire to have sex I’m not in an emotional place to even make the effort. I also don’t think it fair to draw someone into your problems. I plan to make sure I’m good before I move on to someone new.

Thank you, this video could not have come at better time. Going out there to date without inner work is an avoidance mechanism. Now I know better from your educational video. I have been alone for 8 months after a permanent separation. It has been a scary experience filed with profound sadness. No appetite to date, fear of repeating the same pattern that I have attracted. I will do my inner work before I venture out there again. This video and Masterclass video will be on repeat for a while. Thanks Rachael!

You are helping many people also when they dont go into the private programs. Thank you very much.

Thanks so much. It really helps. I'm in so much pain. Really appreciate your help

You are one of the best YouTubers on psychology I think. Keep doing what you do. Thanks. Your words and perspective have helped me a lot. Also, love the set up. Green lighting is cool. 😊

I'm honestly surprised a woman could help in this situation. But your words do help I do feel some kind of relief after your videos.We need to clone you. Will you marry me? Lol

Yes! After 27 years with one lady, I didn't realize what I was missing. And care about my ex-wife more now after 4 years apart.

She is 90 percent right. Random sex won't solve your problems. Neither will pretending you don't want sex. I would say yes, go have sex with at least one person, because there is literally no substitute for a partner saying yes to sex. Trust me, I tried every psychological and spiritual avenue, and there is no alternative to the life-affirming nature of sex. But that encounter is just one step in a long process that is, as she says, mostly internal and not about external validation and sexual desire, it's about wholeness. good video.

This actually sounds like a great idea to me. 🤔

Most people just want connection, companionship, and sex after a relationship. Just make sure you tell the other people you are getting involved in you are not capable of entering another long term relationship at the moment and see if they will be OK with you stringing them along.

Yes. It helped me. I only had a few lady friends. It was 12 years ago and I still have a decent relationship with them. I still date one; which was the receptionist at the marital counselor's office.

I need to be careful and don't want to enter a rebound relationship. My codependat ex wife left me after 17 years of marriage. I have seen what hell looks like and slowly returning.

another reason someone might choose to have sex sooner rather than later is to dissolve the shared fantasy from a narcissistically abusive relationship. this may sound like It’s meant to help your self-esteem and validate the person having sex, however it’s more about destroying the illusion a narcissist has created.

I'm very physically fit, rather attractive, confident, comfortable with women, good in bed, social, and yet I haven't had any romantic involvement whatsoever with a woman since the divorce 25 years ago. I've tried too. Zero. And I like myself. I don't need to "heal". Thoughts on that?

I'll never be with anyone again (sexually or otherwise). I'm done. She broke me. She didn't want me anymore.

No.

It's only temporary relief...

It really is dehumanizing imagining your freshly ex wife being with another man!

Good answer lol ...