THE 5 WAYS THE INFJ MAKES OTHERS FEEL LIKE ON DRUGS

What kind of reactions have you experienced from others because of your presence?

They don’t want to leave. The drug may be addictive to them, but I need my own time. My hope is they learn to feel the drug without being dependent on me. And not get angry with me or pushy when I make boundaries clear or need to close a door.

Maybe that’s why we feel other people’s withdrawals after we doorslam 😭

“I don’t do drugs,I am drugs.” S.Dali

yeah!.. a lot of cultures do not allow for kids who grow up to be themselves, to be loved for being themselves. They have to conform to that particular culture. And then an infj comes along and says... Go for it, I see you have a beautiful side. Don't mind the culture, in 150 years it will be something else. You are good as you are, you do YOUR dance of life. For this moment, love your soul and love their soul. Accept the souls as they are. Sometimes this is deeply healing, but not for everyone

I've been calling myself a psychedelic for years. Sometimes when getting into a deep spiritual conversation with someone I start blowing their minds then I can tell they are feeling high. When I ask them if they think I'm an actual psychedelic it blows their mind again lol

Because no one's understood me, I've felt doubtful of myself. I've always been called weird, but I always thought I made sense. I've just discovered this INFJ thing, and I'm finding that other people have figured out, what to me, has been a bunch of conundrums in the way I feel and behave. This is a lot of fun, and it's very exciting. I feel like I'm having a growth spurt.

It's hard for us to find each other, because in a room of 50 people, we're statistically the only one of us there. In a room of 100 people you might get two of us, but we both desperately want to get the heck out there.
The best thing for INFJs socializing together were the laws that stated you have to smoke outside. I don't smoke anymore, but when I did, I was probably meeting other dirty smokers, whom, like me, just wanted to get away from the crowd. I suspect that, without knowing it, we were finding ourselves bonding with other introverts in those stinky smoking circles.

Sometimes I feel like the life was sucked out of me when new people want to share their life story and it feels one sided bc they’re so comfortable

Its the devine nature in these beings. Being around them gives people the reminder of home! "Heaven".

A lot of these descriptions show how we are quite capable of making people feel comfortable and at ease. In my opinion that's good, but it's always good for me to remember your counsel about not "hollowing ourselves out." In my observation and experience, this easy trap to to fall into.

In teaching situations and even in conversations, I've had people tell me that I've put my finger on exactly what was troubling them. Often it's a surprise. It's usually unintentional since I walk on the deep side most of the time.

By the way - I appreciated when you pointed out that "slow" doesn't mean we're not getting things done. We INFJs take time to save time ; slow down to speed up.

I'm reminded of something some friends said to me many years ago about my quantum physics/philosophy/mysticism poetry. They said reading/listening to the poems were like an acid trip without doing acid.

Interestingly, as an INFJ I wouldn't want to be with another INFJ romantically. Maybe because it's like being a double cheeseburger...it's just too much at once or maybe its uncomfortable because it's like looking at myself. I'll never truly know the person... just what my own intuition tells me about them...which just might be me projecting my qualities & insecurities onto them. It's too much.

I have never thought of relationships with people like this! Now I have to go think hard about some of these points for awhile.

I love that point that being slow doesn't mean we aren't getting things done. I always felt like I was too slow at school and at work when it came to learning. There were some subjects I just needed more time to learn and school made me feel like something was wrong with my brain. Maybe the real problem are the teachers who expect students to be geniuses and learn so much information quickly.

I went on a date with an INFJ once and within three minutes of meeting he opened up a vintage tome of early 20th century conspiracies lol

That sentence needs an extra word. Makes them feel like They are on drugs or that I AM on drugs. Cuz I get latter all the time.

Were any other INFJ'S besides me bullied in school?

Yes I totally relate when you say your heart goes out to people and you feel disconnected from others. I have felt that way a lot of my life. It's almost like we dont feel connected to others in the way a lot of people do-laughs, small talk. But we connect to people on such a deep level.

In lieu of me watching out or "baby sitting" family, young adults and adults during many parties and social occasions and one vacation, I have ruined a lot of my good times I should've been having and enjoying.

Having experienced so much with an infj and sure they're like drugs,, so when they leave,,it feels so horrible and empty and makes wonder why they came in the way in the 1st place.