7 Clues to SPOT the Narcissist EARLY!

Covert Narcissists can fake empathy for a time, (like faking tears) especially during the love bombing stage, however, their true nature will always show up and they will start to invalidate and belittle you and the empathy will become non-existent. If you've experienced this type of trauma after being with a partner or family member, I can't tell you how sorry I am that you had to go through that.

You end up sick from narcissistic abuse because your nervous system is constantly stressed.. you become confused, you cry, you’re scared, alone, it is so terrible. I feel for all narcissistic abuse survivors. Sometimes I have no words for what narcissistic abuse feels like…

Trust your gut. Trust your gut. Trust your gut.

When you start dreading their presence and feel drained after each interaction is also a pretty big indicator. The gut never lies

"We end up abandoning ourselves so that they don't abandon us." So true

“Be very careful thinking you can heal people who don’t think they’re sick.” - Wow that hit home. Such powerful advice.

Ask them WHY they love you. Their answer gives it away. He said "The way you make ME feel". It's not about you, ever. It's always about them.

The brain fog, hyper sensitivity to noise, the feeling of always being on edge..he pushed in such a dark place I can’t ever do that to myself again. And how things turned from love to hate soo quickly..he blamed me for everything and today I broke out of that trap.

Be very careful about someone asking about your deepest fears or what you don’t like about yourself. A narcissistic person will ALWAYS weaponized whatever they discover about you.

1. Lovebombing phase (been charming mysterious fun) 2. Isolating u from your friends and family for easy manipulation. 3. Devalue phase Gaslighting (Inconsistent behaviours and lies) to manipulate 4. Disrespect your boundaries 5. Inflated ego, self centred,pride, entitled and superiority 6. Painting self as victim 7. No capacity for empathy ( wont nor cant) 8. Discard phase ( ignore and silent treatment)

The worst is when you become a person you hate because you're so beside yourself with dark emotions brought on by the abuse.

I hate how they gaslight you until you think you're the narcissist. It doesn't matter how kind you know you are, how your big heart has sheltered so many people who needed it, how many deep and loving friendships you have that validate your kindness and loving nature; they turn it all around on you and make you feel like you're the worst person in the world, that you're the abuser. It hurts. It hurts so much that one person can come out if nowhere and twist you into knots. It makes you question everything about yourself and your own ability to make beneficial choices. I hope everyone who hurts like this can get out. I hope everyone who's been hurt like this can heal.

Narcissists are not capable of loving they only love what you can provide them with… You are just another supply…

My almost 21 y granddaughter committed suicide 6/26/23. Junior in college. No drugs. Honor student. Her dad is everything you just described. She lived with us the last 3 y. Her every success he destroyed. She asked me ”What happens when being perfect isn’t good enough?” I suspect she felt she had no escape. Every success was met with devastation. She told me he would find her darkest fear and use it as a wepon against her. Never underestimate the destruction a narcissist.

I kept making excuses. The list of excuses finally got too long. “His dad was abusive.” “It’s just the way he grew up.” “He’s just stressed.” It was finally ENOUGH. And when I gathered what few belongings I could carry- I was shaking so bad I could hardly speak. And I am 1 month free…. Trying to heal.

The biggest blessing in my life has been that I didn’t get pregnant with my narcissitic ex. I thank God for that

One of my mistakes is that I thought everyone thought like me😒🙄. You know...empathy, compassion, trustworthy, ect. 60 years old, finally figured it out

One time, one of my old professors said this to my peers in a conversation after class: Remember the "Narc" in "Narcissist." Just like a narcotic, it starts with a rush, it takes the pain away, it HELPS... And then you need more. And more. And before you realize it, you are even more sick than when you first were introduced to it.

“Be very careful thinking you can heal people with your love. The relationship is only at peace when you have silenced yourself.”

I can see where suicide rates can go up just from simply being around a narcissist without realizing it