How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want Help

I felt when I tried helping my love one with their addiction I became lost and depressed and frustrated

Don't cast pearls before swine. If they're dying and they're dragging you down with them, leave and end the relationship - because it doesn't serve help to both of you. It can be very sad and seemingly cruel, but what's more cruel is have twice the cruelty if one doesn't want to go down that dark path.

Today while being a pedestrian I found myself in an ethical dillema. While waiting at a walk light right after I witnessed someone carrying 2 heavy bags of groceries tumble onto the road into traffic whereupon people around him continued to be doing their best to help manage the situation. I am not a traffic cop and so I did not know all of the right arm signs to alert oncoming traffic on a very busy street. By the time I walked/ran across that street to offer him help he had already begun to pick himself off the road. Then when I asked if his leg was okay he admitted it was not feeling his best. Then when I offered to help him carry his groceries he said, "No I am okay."

If someone doesn't want your help, you're generally not helping them forcing what you want on them. Other people aren't our pets or infants. That's part of the point of freedom.

Very helpful! I could not help laughing at 'I know what this is gonna be about - they will gonna try to help me again' :) It is so important to be able to understand the other person's perspective. And special thanks for the advice about shifting the energy away from judgment. Worth remebering if you really want to help, but so difficult if someone keeps behaving arrogantly and hurting you. Thank you, B :)

Thank you for the video. The advice is very helpful. Currently trying to help someone who I really care about, but she continues to do drugs. Very heartbreaking watching her do this to herself, will continue to offer the help but not become emotional, so hard to do. Thanks again

Nice to see that you mean well and truly want to help the ones in need... God bless...:)

I managed to find peace with myself and to find the right words to help a loved one, God bless you

As crestons wife you can't help people who don't want to be helped. You have to let them fall and not pick them back up. You have to let them pick themselves back up. You don't have to feel guilty. We are responsible for ourselves.

If they are adults and don't want your help, than respect them enough to leave them alone, there lives are their own, if you don't like watching them in need than don't watch them.

"quite happily digging themselves into destruction" agree. 🙇🏾‍♀️

I couldnt sleep because im worried but you gave me peace again thank you

Thank you for sharing this important information. It certainly gave me a different perspective of a situation my family and I are currently experiencing with my sister. This video was extremely helpful as it gave me excellent advice and an insight to my sister's problem. Here is a little background of her. My sister (58 years old) have three grown children and had an abusive relationship with her husband over the years which resulted in a state of anxiety, fear, intermittent fluctuation of mood swings, depression, etc. Friends and close family members began to make false judgments about her behavior as being insane, crazy, lunatic, etc. As time progress, she began to feel a sense of emptiness and being abandoned by her immediately family members. She is trying hard to keep her relationship as she has made a lifetime of sacrifice to sustain her children through college, took care of her husband 's mom, and doing the best that she can. This song by Ricky Van Shelton " Life Turned Her That Way" reminded me of her situation. However, her spouse has not been supportive along the way and now her children are shifting away from her which is bothering her so much that it makes her upset. Most recently, they called the police and had her institutionalized. This caused her a lot of pain and some medical problems as she was mistreated in a mental facility and the COVID restrictions left her with bruises on her body. Our family rescued her from this dire situation and try to work with her. She has refused to take action against her husband and what is strange she wants to protect them. We could not understand WHY? Later on, her kids encouraged her to return home in the toxic environment who does not understand her problem. Just yesterday, I saw her walking the streets with a dark shade on in the late evening. My family is concerned and wants to help her. How do you suggest we proceed in getting her back on track and what course of action should we take? Thank you again for your response in advance.

what if they've given up and there's no way they're helping themselves too, claims to live for others and avoids every kind of avail?

very helpful thank you i am trying to help my sister she is in pain and doesn't want help. she doesn't want to listen to anyone not even her mom. good video :)

Thank you for this video ❤

SO very helpful for me. I called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline just minutes before watching your video. I must say that the call to them was not helpful in any way other than the fact that the disappointing conversation with the young lady led me to seek help elsewhere which led me to your page. I was calling on the behalf of a friend who is in need of help and I just didn't know how to handle the situation due to the fact that my friend shows very very high tendencies to harm himself. Very strong points taken from your video will help tremendously as to how I need to approach the situation while at the same time not push him away. I really thank you for this video.

Many thanks for this video share. I appreciate this.

its hard to come at your drug addicted family with peace when you are suffering from heart break from watching, trying to help and being around them. so everyone suffers not just the addict. you tend to come at them with anger sometimes because you feel it is there fault for making you worry your self sick and they only care about them self and doing drugs.

Compared to the Petersons word salad this is exactly what I was looking for, practical stuff to get a grasp and know how to react to a natural instinct to help until it hurts