How To Make the Right Decision

Ending it on “why” stung a little

I think dealing with the anxiety around decision making comes down to admitting that there is a maximally correct decision, but you cannot know what it is. The choices you make define you, so just decide who you want to be and if you in good faith make decisions towards that goal then that's it, man. Gotta wade through the mire, climb up into the lair and slay the dragon, roughly speaking.

The way Jordan is completely immersed in the conversation is something else.

Procrastinating down to the wire can also bring about opportunity to witness others reactions. Those who can influence a particular decision may be holding out till the last minute before reaching deeper into their pocketbook. Kenny Roger’s “The Gambler” may be this guys lifelong theme song.

There's a hypothesis here I would like to challenge, to the effect that chaos tolerance is a learnt ability. I love chaos and thinking on my feet, but I was never taught that as a child. I was kept in a very choiceless and controlled environment and wasn't encouraged to believe I could make good decisions or handle the world (quite the reverse, I was deemed incompetent and stupid). I think, at least in my case, my love of chaos is temperamental. I always enjoyed the thrill of the stress that comes with uncertainty and I get bored when everything goes according to plan. My baseline is being bored, so maybe it could account for that. Even as a kid, I enjoyed doing presentations in front of the class, not because I wasn't scared, I was a shy kid and I was terrified, but because at least I wasn't bored half to death.

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I think there's something to be said about having your options narrowed because it makes the thought process much less complicated. If you have too much choice, you're probably bound to buyer's remorse when you do make a decision because you're gonna constantly be trying to retrace your steps to determine if the decision you made was maximally beneficial.

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But it goes deeper still: It's not just a question of what you choose our when you choose it, but also why do you feel as though you have to choose in the first place? A coin flip would reduce the anxiety and uncertainty down to 0. And in many ways, if we spend weeks overthinking multiple choices what ends up happening is that when the time comes to finally make the decision, we make a snap judgement. And we are never certain no matter how long we thought things through. Because certainty is not a product of good decision making, but of trust. Not of choosing right over wrong, but proving your choice right after the fact. We never do have control over our lives; but we can have control over ourselves and our attitudes towards life. There are no good outcomes in life, only good actions taken to unknown outcomes.

I found this incredibly helpful as I work through processing and improving my indecisiveness and where it comes from ….(anxiety!!).

Love this discussion!

5:39 Yup. That’s a common problem common folk do have. Very often. All the time, in fact.

Love this discussion.

Thank you for the insight. God bless

Yes the time domain matters most I've discovered as well. Timing is more impactful or just as impactful as the choice

0:16 literal bars

"Good morning, could I have a bread roll, please?", "White or brown?", "ah, white thanks", "Long or round?", "um, round please", "seeds or no seeds?", "oh ffs, just give me a bread roll!". Without all that BS, I would have taken a plain white round roll, but confusion set in and I took seeds, because a roll with seeds looked interesting - although completely superfluous. I was on my way to a job interview, part of that interview was a urine test. I tested positive to Heroin use. They were poppy seeds...

5:50 I beg to differ; I was in that situation when I got out of high school, I applied to 3 schools, 3 faculties each, and got accepted in them all --the problem only became larger, I really didn't know what to do and ended up making the wrong decision back then.

thank you 💯...

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