My Daughter Stopped Talking To Me: My Response

The mother found a way to keep being toxic to her daughter after she cut ties, well done

Well, she proved her daughter correct. The daughter tried to speak, was completely ignored, and the idiot then makes a manipulative gaslighting video about how badly she’s being treated by this horrible adult child.

The way she went right into a smear campaign makes it perfectly clear why she was cut off.

I'm a parent and it seems very strange to me for a parent to say that an angry outburst is out of character. Parents see their child angry at all phases of their life, and more than anyone else they really know their child's full emotional capacity. So saying anger is out of character says very clearly that anger was not an acceptable emotion in this persons house, that screams bad parenting.

The mother didn't post the letter because she didn't want viewers to hear the details about all the ways she has hurt her daughter. That would be some seriously negative PR - the thing narcissists fear most.

A red flag to me is people only showing / holding on to pictures of their children when they were toddlers or very young. As they grow older, they tend to have their own identity / boundaries and that's when the fights begin.

As somebody who went through narcissistic abuse this SCREAMS narcissistic abuse. THIS WOMAN IS LITERALLY DOING A SMEAR CAMPAIGN AGAINST HER DAUGHTER.

I have only ever heard “I’m not perfect” as a preamble for “here’s why I’m not going to take accountability for the terrible way I treated you or change my behavior.” I noticed that pattern first in reality TV, but now I can’t unsee it.

The woman even uses a child-like voice to represent her daughter even though it's obvious the daughter is a full grown up. This was very telling.

It was a disgusting video and yes, I was very triggered. Professionally filmed, perfectly lit, perfect everything. I was livid for days. THIS is the mother's ultimate revenge, dropping her daughter's name and photo in it. When she can't get in contact with the daughter, THIS is what she decides to do. People who know this woman will know the daughter so totally throwing the daughter under the bus. "I thought I was a good mom." No, you weren't.

My mother was wildly abusive- physically, mentally, verbally, emotionally. The only thing that stopped when I became an adult was the physical abuse. Neither of my siblings nor I speak with her but if you ask her, she doesn't know why. She says things like "Maybe I was abusive, but if you had a child like you, you'd be too." She also says things like "I did the best I could. It was a long time ago, get over it." I'm nearly 60 at this point & have nothing to do with her. I have no guilt or regret about that either.

Something that really pushes my buttons is the continual smug she carries on her face. No trace of sadness whatsoever.

I truly hope the daughter sees your video. It's over 36 minutes of solid validation.

Us daughters of narcissistic abusive mothers can see right through this. The emotional manipulation, guilt tripping and plain fake is so clear to see. 14yrs of cutting contact with my mother. Best decision I ever made.

"I'm not perfect" and "nobody is perfect" are sentences I have heard from both my abusive family and my abusive partners. So gross!

I watched the video when she first posted it. She gave me the creeps immediately. As a parent, I would never post a video about my relationship with any of my children. Ever. It’s a grotesque violation of trust.

The baby pictures do it for ma haha! It’s like saying “it was so great when you couldn’t walk or speak!”

I left a long pointed comment on her video as the daughter of a borderline who has forgiven my Mom and still practices tight boundaries. I told her even IF her daughter wanted to eventually communicate with her she has destroyed all hope of that by taking their problems to the worldwide internet to accuse her daughter of being cruel. It was such an obvious public smear campaign. A truly disgusting video and I’m glad the comments eventually started to call her out on her nonsense. Especially the maudlin music playing in the background which was especially tacky and manipulative. 🙄

Crikey. The magnitude of the narcissism of the mother is shocking.

When my mother said I needed to apologize for what I’ve put her through, I truly understood the delusion her entire life had been.