The 6th Stage of Grief: Why Meaning Making is More Important Than Ever

I was 17 years old when my father passed away suddenly, I pretty much decided right then and there that I would never become a parent because the pain that he seemed to go through was very stressful and I felt that I had contributed to his death. I realized that love was pain over the years and have kept my connections few and far between and quite small and that loneliness hurts and makes me realize that when I do experience loss it will be even greater because my circle is so small. But truly it created a fear of connection because now I have such a profound fear of loss. Screaming in the car is a good one it's very cathartic nobody can hear you and you're not bothering the neighbors. I become aware of my anger and I realize that it's my body's defense mechanism against the pain and so I turned towards the pain instead. I wasn't always able to do this.

Wow! Wonderful teaching. Thank you. That video and the work you did with her was beautiful. It was so good! I am a Christian therapist and I major in the gestalt model along with other models. People so need permission to feel. That it how we heal. Gestalt helps to open the emotions that need to be released. It is a crime that Christians are schooled to not feel. A common theology is “If you are feeling you are not standing in faith” is what I encounter with clients. I too had a similar experience as you said. I counseled widows but when I became one I became a totally different therapist in counseling widows. So sorry for the loss of your son. I pray your heart continues to heal as you travel the journey as a wounded healer. ❤

I’m sooo sorry you lost your little son🥲🙏🏽🌹

I am already a fan of David kessler and pass on his book FINDING MEANING to few of my kindred friends. Profoud presenation straight from his heart.

So much valuable information that is needed for us who are grieving. Thank you David !

I have lost both my sons (adults) and a daughter-in- law in less than 4 months. I’ve grieved many times before but this time I’m in freefalll. I know I’m not alone in grief but I’m drowning in it..

Just as a follow up I had commented before I finished the video and had used the term wounded healer. I love that you said that.

Would love to hear his thoughts on compounding grief

Thank you for this. I am battling with grief at the moment. I recently lost my husband of 50 years. I don't have an identity any longer. He was a Minister of Religion and Military Chaplain. My youngest daughter passed away at two years old and my adult and only son at 25 years old. My surviving daughter lost her husband during covid. My brother was last year, and now my nephew and niece. I'm tired of being so sad 😞 I am a born again Christian and have a relationship with the Lord. Please Can you help me?? 🙏 I'd like to do grief counseling. 😢

Thank you for this much needed video

you are helping me so much david i just lost my dad a few months ago

That was great thanks!

Love you, David, and thanks 🙏🏻

Dr Edward whom?

Please, there’s no such thing as “stages of grief”.