why i moved out at 15... + cooking and grocery shopping in my new NYC penthouse | vlogmas day 6

I really am out here exposing myself.

I was so brainwashed by the whole "life of an influencer" from social media, that i never realized that they're just like normal people. seeing her journal, lay in bed without the chaos of having a million things to say, all for the sake to keep us entertained. that really made me cry a bit. i love how raw her content is now. feel so at peace.

the weight of having traditional asian parents is no joke... having those generational curses passed down to you and having to move through them, live with them as they manifest through your parents, its so heartbreakingly painful. thank you for being so transparent and sharing your story so fearlessly mai <3

It’s the disrespect and the way they are treating your home and things you own that you did all for yourself. Your feelings are so valid

real ones will never think you're crying over the "little things". Childhood trauma really follows us til forever and will trigger us however way it can. Thanks for showing us this side, Mai. Hope you feel much better

Mai, that asian parent inter-generational trauma is so real!! And you’re amazing for trying to heal yourself and others from that. Cry, get frustrated, feel your feelings. You’re doing the work and thats such a feat to do ❤

I’ve been experiencing 21 years of mental abuse with my parents and I still haven’t moved out. It’s a massive dream of mine and trust me I know how it feels to want to be close to ur family, yet they always prove u right with how they act. I don’t think anyone who has a good family life will ever understand how we feel so they don’t have a leg to stand on to tell us how to act. All I know is that you have helped me so much and you should be so proud of yourself for even trying. You’re not alone Mai ❤❤❤❤

As a girl who has a toxic relationship with my parents, this video is very relatable. I'm 18 and living with my parents now but I'm gonna move out next year. Every time my parents yell at each other and slap me, I felt like I wanna die and there's nothing I can do to change this toxic environment but Mai and her videos gave me hope. I love you Mai❤

ngl this episode triggered me a lil but in a way that made me feel so seen. Almost no one in my life understands these emotions. I literally recognized every stage in her body language and tone as the video progressed and it may seem subtle but it’s so so easy for someone who’s felt that to see. We love you mai. Being vulnerable like this and breaking the facade is so good for peoples brains and lives. Thank you for putting yourself out there ❤

When you cried my heart broke. People really don't talk about the stress of home life. You're so incredibly strong and I'm sure that so many people could relate to the vlog today <3 Also ....the cooking looked fire!

Being a Nigerian I'm growing up in a very toxic household and you can't say anything about it like you cant even think to disrespect anyone no matter what they say or who they are and watching mai really brings me peace and hearing her story is really touching

… your dad was literally being disrespectful 🫢 your tears are valid cuz damn 😢 mmm so good

girl, please don't feel bad about talking to us about your family problems. im 17, i live at home, and have family problems. you have no idea how encouraging it is to know that you understand what that's like, and that you were actually able to move out. thank you sm for sharing, you have no idea.

That feeling is too relatable. Nothing triggers me more than family drama. I moved out when I was 18 to get away and be at peace. Im 31 now and I’m still trying to keep a decent relationship with my family. But there are certain things that they do that makes me break down and feel like I did when I was a kid. It took me a long time to figure out how to keep my family at a comfortable distance and set boundaries especially in my home. So proud to see that you have a new fantastic space and you living your life to the fullest ❤ sending love from Toronto!

When Mai started crying, I found myself crying too. I dont remember seeing anyone in the social media being this sincere and raw about their feelings. It made me feel extremely proud of her and myself too as someone who struggled with her family a lot. I moved out this October to go to college and my hometown and the city that I've arrived are far far away from each other and I've been enjoying my freedom for nearly 2 months and HONESTLY I am so grateful. I dont ever remember feeling this peaceful in my life. I studied my ass off and got into the best college in my country and this video seriously made me think about my past experiences. Bless Mai's heart, I love her sooo much, she deserves the whole world. <3

I know I am late to catching here but just some advise to anyone…. The environment and the people you learn and grow from don’t define you, you seek the positive out of the negative and hardships to persevere and better yourself as a person. As another person that was raised by divorced parents and having negativities surrounding the kids ( my lil sis and I) is hard to find the better out of one or both. I understand how you not want to live an environment that emotionally and physically affects you to the point that you need to leave. I left one of those types of environments, so far I’ve been better. I hope everyone’s doing well and always do your best and don’t burn out. ❤

Mai, you’ve lived independently from your parents for so many years now. I know there’s a whole thing (especially in Asian households) where parents can make you feel guilty about how they feel as though they have to be treated a certain way because they immigrated, started from nothing, gave you what you have, etc. but no!!! You built this incredible life for yourself and you deserve to be happy whether it’s with or without them. You knew since age 15 that they weren’t bringing positivity in your life and you did something about it. Don’t feel like you owe them anything purely because “they are your parents at the end of the day”.

I'm a 31 yr old asian female and Sagittarius and girl I totally understand why you felt so upset that your family was so careless in your space. Asian parents always treat you like a little girl no matter how much older you get and how successful you become. I'm so proud though that you have a space that is completely yours and you don't have to deal with BS on a daily basis. Keep doing you girl❤

Props to mai for talking about her parents. Kids get how frustrating parents can be and since we don't wanna be disrespectful we keep all of it to ourselves. It's good to talk about this and we would never judge you on your relationship w your parents❤️

I normally don’t comment on videos + this is the second video I’ve seen from you but I wanted to tell you something… As someone who moved out of their parents house at 17 because of mental health and abuse I’m so thankful that you shared that… I’m always thinking I’m the only one who’s trying to get better with their own family even though they treated me like shit. I know it’s hard to visit your family or your family visiting you. It helped me a lot to see that there are other people with the same problems ❤️