Narcissists must ensure you never move on

Never take them back.

She keeps the new supply hidden. After the 8 years I was with her she discarded me brutally when my Dad passed away. Devalued me to the extent that I wanted to take myself out. I remember calling her and telling her about what I want to do to myself. She told me to be a man and go through with it. Pretty much told me to kill myself. Ghosting me for a year after that. I didn't even know what NPD is back then. That was probably the lowest point in my life. When a man's life doesn't even matter to the woman he loves, it's the ultimate devaluation. I was miserable, depressed, stopped eating and lost almost half my body weight. It took me a long time to pick myself up but when I did, I decided to work on myself. Started running and lifting weights. Got to the point that I'm proud of how fit I am today. She contacted me recently and wanted to meet me. I took the bait and we ended up sleeping together that night. With all the knowledge I've gathered over the year about NPD, I wanted to see first hand how they operate. She lovebombed me and future faked me. Told me everything I wanted to hear that night. I found out she's in a relationship with the guy she was cheating on me with. The next day she began ghosting me and the day after that she'd disappeared again. I look at myself in the mirror and see the fruits of all my hard work. I'm stronger and better looking than I've ever been. Meanwhile the guy she's seeing is a scrawny little shrimp and a definite physical downgrade. She stalks my social media everyday, no doubt upset at the fact that she could've had me for life. I know I haunt her because I was the chosen one. She literally saved my name as "the chosen one" on her phone back in the day. Me being the naive fool thought it was incredibly sweet. Never again. I've blocked her everywhere and focusing on myself again. All I need is my Mom and my Cat. I will never let anyone manipulate me and devalue me again. I know my worth and no one can take that from me. Time to get back to what I do best, Ignore and Override. Best wishes to anyone reading this incredibly long and tragic essay.

It's been 14 years for Petes sake....these people are crazy. Normal people do not behave this way.

That gut feeling is always followed by a hoover, unfortunately. Narcissists are also an intuition test.

They have deep mental issues and want to keep you around for supply. My ex had contact with all his exes but he won’t be keeping up with me. I promise you that!!💯💯💯💯💯

The narc has been out of my life since 2019. He's attempted to reach out several times since then but I've blocked him in every way possible! He needs to just keep moving on & leave me in his rearview mirror- like I've done to him.

I found out from my sisters friend that he had a tinder profile. I was blindsided by this. Waited a few days then went to his place with a HUGE suitcase and took all my belongings and took my power back. When he opened the door it looked like he saw a ghost, his eyes were black !!! (His real eye colour is blue) he told me right away that he wasn’t with anyone and I replied I didn’t ask. I told him to give me the keys he had to my home. I was calm, didn’t yell, showed him the screenshots I got from my sister’s friend’s profile pictures on tinder. He actually wanted to start an argument and I didn’t fall for it and it’s not in my nature to yell. He tried to hug me many times and I backed away. Unfortunately he is my brother in law’s best friend and nephew’s godfather so he is in my orbit. It pisses me off that my sister is nice to him and his gf. My sister tells me he says to her how happy he is but she sees right through it, he is very inauthentic. She told me she is a total downgrade and not his type, chubby, wears tons of makeup and dresses like a granny. She cooks and cleans for him, I guess he wants a mom to take care of him and his son is very disrespectful towards her. It’s been 2 years and it still bothers me. I now realise that he is a narcissist because there was no closure.They are sick people.

Hovering to make sure you stay down..

The guest stars supercede the costar, til the next guest comes. They make supporting actors of everyone 😮 They should get an Emmy award for their soap opera.

I feel that ex narc. Is thinking about me. I overthink sometimes. BUT I LEFT THE SITUATIONSHIP. I have a new job. I've seen the narc in passing NO HOOVER'S YET!

The tabs thing is so true. You feel like they need to know your in a low place. To be honest I'm happy living a quiet life and not being bothered by anybody

We never go back.

We, who had narc. nightmare once, must ensure that they never have any access to us ever again. Yes we moved on and we dont care if they like it or not. Beautiful video. Thank you Joe ! 🤗 ❤

Hoover after 4 months then continuing for a day or 3 or 4 every other week, but i'm not giving in to her. The vibe is gone.

In my experience narcissistic men have a harder time moving on than narcisstistic women.

This is so true. I have one that speaks to a couple of people who know me several times a week. I just got a feeling that I couldn’t ignore when one of these people started asking about me, seemingly concerned. Ive never said anything, just acted like nothing happened. It would be really helpful to do a video on how to handle flying monkeys.

#ACCESSDENIED

It has to come down to a restraining order unfortunately

one of mine’s b-day is today (relative). I really want to send a text in honor of the good things in the past but I just remember all the horrible things too. Plus nothing I do is ever taken in the best light So I don’t think I will. It’s sad but I’ll be glad when they finally pass away or I do. Not wishing it just painful to go through this at every holiday.

It’s kind of like that song, “Every Breath You Take.” 😉… Lol, but I digress. I will say that whole “supply chain” is not attractive by any measure, nor the possible health risks that come with that… One of the very first things I did when I kicked my ex husband out was get tested for every single thing! That doesn’t fly with me!