What’s The Dark Night of The Soul (REALLY)? And How To Get Out of It.

Published 2019-01-12
In this video, I give you a fresh look into what the Dark Night of The Soul REALLY is and also share some valuable tools to help you get out of it more quickly.

Some teachers call the Dark Night a sort of an existential crisis but in this video, I go much deeper than that.

I shot this video with 2 key goals in mind:
1. To give you a unique definition of the Dark Night, based on my personal experience.
2. To help you come out of the Dark Night faster by using the accelerated process that I learned during my own Dark Night.

I answer these 5 key questions to help you understand and navigate The Dark Night of The Soul with mastery:

1. What’s the dark night of the soul?
2. What are the top signs of a Dark Night?
3. Why does it happen?
4. How long does it last?
5. How can we get out of a Dark Night more quickly?

I also share 3 key practices that accelerated my own Dark Night process and helped me get out of it in only a few months (as opposed to YEARS).

The key insights I share in this video will help accelerate your own Dark Night process so you don’t spend years stuck in this spiritual phenomenon.


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All Comments (20)
  • @kathylgoedert
    7 years of hell. Dissociating, hospitalizations, seriously suicidal all the time. All gone! In 5D love and bliss.
  • @karmarules9850
    In reference to coming out of The Dark Night faster; One thing that helps me a lot, that I want to share, was that I made a physical list of all the people in my life that I felt wronged me in some way. (It was long, even some from my childhood.) One by one I visualized a face to face conversation where I told them I forgive them (specifically for what they did) and asked them to forgive me (specifically for how I reacted) and then I virtually wished them love and peace, gave them a hug and sent them on their way. I repeated this until I no longer felt that they owed me an apology. Now when their faces come up in my memory I feel peace and forgiveness for them. It was hard at first--. I can't tell you how many people I virtually slapped in my mind but eventually my heart softened and I dropped the burden of hateful baggage. Wonderfully, some I have been able to tell in person. I still have to practice sometimes but it's such a relief to get rid of the anger, self-pity and the "woe is me" attitude from being wronged. Do it for you, not for them. I love myself a lot more now because the dark was eating me up. You can forgive their humanity and make more room in your heart for the light. It doesn't mean you condone what they did or the hurt they caused. It just means that you don't have to carry it everywhere you go. You have to PRACTICE forgiveness. I find that now, I am much quicker to forgive rather than holding it in. We are all a collective. The Universe hears your thoughts and does reward your positive intent! Hope this helps!
  • @AjayKumar-bi3dp
    1) feel low in energy. Depressed 2) feeling no purpose in life 3) feeling completely disconnected from God and source energy 4) You have no energy 5) Not knowing what to do with your life 6) You don't know who you are 7) You don't know what you want in life 8) You don't know what you want to do 9) Things you like to do before you no longer like. 10) Some passions disappear Top symptom:- Your life turns meaningless Tips to come out of dark night 1) Surrender Mantras:- "I surrender to life" "I surrender to my soul's will" "I drop resistance to my process" 2) Reframing 2.1) Use mantra 2.2) Gratitude 3) Energy cleansing 36:15 Sit in meditation, close your eyes, imagine bright light coming from heaven, Mantra "It is my intention to..."
  • Some physical relievers to note too: Cold showers! Breathwork (I love Wim Hof's-clears the mind calms the body) Music (life saver) Hug a tree, walk barefoot, get away from the cars and the people for a moment. This could especially be important for empaths. This was a great video. Mantras, affirmations/gratitude, and visualizing will be my focus now!
  • @kdb7662
    My dark night involved becoming homeless. This went on for years. Although I was blessed with understanding WHY I was going thru this so it kept my head above water. I had ZERO family and friends to talk to. I can only say Im so much stronger in an invisible way. I am now 64 years old and can say Im seeing the Light again. And yes I still get reminders, but I've NEVER FELT SO BLESSED & GRATEFUL in my entire life. I cry at times just feeling SO THANKFUL ! Life is awesome and it continues to become more beautiful & full. Thank you with all my Heart for the work you do for all Souls. Much Love ❤.... Kristin 👣 👣 👣
  • @debbiedion5731
    Jesus said we have to die to really live,he meant the ego
  • @tariqsaleem1519
    thank you. extreme fatigue, cold cold legs, lack of energy/fear/lots of crying/emptiness
  • @ARI-wc6xd
    My biggest challenge right now is to face the fear of ego dying and letting go. I'm in that between place where I cannot go back but also don't know how to go forward, I'm scared of what I will become when I let go of my identity, but I feel it's releasing anyway bit by bit.
  • Horrible horrible feeling. Maybe mine is anger, jealousy, outrage, loneliness, confusion. I feel all of these and very depressed. I cannot stop crying. Thankyou for this video. Your words have helped.
  • Shedding your skin was a good analogy because i feel detached from the things that use to interest me. The hardest part of the dark night is the lonelyness and not being able to express my feelings. It feels like death. And i think people notice my disconnect.
  • @urbansetter1
    Omg im going through this now. I dropped 4 friends, i feel so isolated yet hopeful. Im changing rapidly I am scared and in and out of pain.
  • @kmbrlia
    Absolutely amazing. You perfectly described my life for the last 9 months.. I feel like I was dying, going crazy and everyone around me not validating me and not feeling supported AT ALL. I’ve felt so alone and in despair but I realized I’m the only one who can help myself. I always wanted to be protected and rescued but now I understand why I had to go through all of this… I will never abandon myself ever again from here on and I will only live life MY WAY. My heart is still in a million pieces but the more I put it together, the stronger I become..
  • @srendall1452
    Mother died of cancer when I was 17. 3 years of drug abuse after that cause I couldn’t face the reality, the accumulation of pain in my body so big that I couldn’t breathe after 5-6 years of deep intense pain everyday, I’m feeling a bit better but nowhere in balance yet. But man have the pain changed me... suffering humbles you, but it’s hard to keep going. One of the things that help is knowing that it’s an evolution of your soul that’s taking place, is really helpful. To anyone going through this I feel you out there. Stay strong.
  • U said it correctly '" Ego doesn't die it transform itself into its new divine form " . I had gone through all these and now I m just witnessing miracles happening around me knowing the fact that I m pure consciousness.
  • I lost my husband and Daddy within a year. Husband, sudden car accident. My Daddy heart failure. I'm self medicating and wanting inside, needing to break out of the day to day sedation. I also have 3 little wild boys under 8. 7, 6 and 3. So that's a whole bunch of love and mental stress. So I continue to do my yoga, listening to the encouraging videos and knowing this won't last forever. Love and light to y'all wonderful folks.
  • As I was sinking into a depressive state, for me it was definitely a must to change daily habits to support me through the dark night, it made the whole process far more peaceful and smooth. 1) Practicing Hatha Yoga daily 2) Changing to a plant based diet, with as much fresh veggies and fruit as possible. Avoiding processed foods. 3)Starting Intermittent Fasting 4) Listening to music to help me process emotions and go through the hardest moments ( I remember there were a couple of months when I kept listening over and over again "Head Above Water" from Avril Lavigne, it became like a mantra 😅 5) Journaling the process 6) Looking into my past to proactively heal old wounds 7) Finding few moments of stillness every single day, to stop the mental process and contemplate: just enjoying the sun, or the breeze or just taking the time to seep in the beauty of a tree 8) Practicing gratitude every single day I learned the hard way that it is essential to support our bodies and minds throughout the process, it really changes the game. People around me kept asking "But why are you changing all your habits when you are so healthy? What is going on with you?". I couldn't really answer because I would sound crazy to them, so I just said "Nothing special, just in the mood to try something new" 😂😂😂 The truth is that I was completely desperate but I would just hide everything behind a smile (not anymore, learned the hard way again that it's a really toxic behaviour). But I am glad that it didn't discourage me from keeping doing it, because after a couple of months started paying back and I felt stability and peace in the middle of it, my anxiety finally receded. I wish the best to all of you going through it 🙏💖💖💖
  • @cococastro4006
    U feel so lost No purpose feeling Exhausting Hopeless Just want to be left alone ...
  • @Vyjayanthi41
    First dark night of the soul is truly shattering. My ego woke up. I was in an extraordinarily abusive situation, it was like remembering my self. Because my self was spiritual to begin with, I lost my ego to abuse at first. I had to rebuild it knowing how helpless I had made my self. I found my purpose in life, I started working 24x7 to help survivors of abuse.
  • @missmoth900
    THE MIRROR THING IS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. I have been going threw my dark nights of the soul for over half a year now and when I looked into the mirror, I would have to remind myself ‘this is your face, this is your face, this is your face’ and it got to the point where even other people became a blur. This has been incredibly difficult because I have always felt a profound connection to God and source my entire life and so having that stripped away left me cram long to find my breath for months. I am just beginning to feel that connection again, but now in a much more intense manner. God is good and I am thankful for my journey 🙏🙏🙏💖💖