The Queen's Code: Advice Women NEED to Hear | relationship expert Alison Armstrong

Ok I just paused the podcast and asked my husband what was new with the Packers and didn’t interrupt him. Then he talked for 50 min straight.

I watched this with my husband last night. 30 minutes in he says out loud, "Wow. I feel so seen and heard." 🎤💥

LOVE SEEING A BOOMER GETTING INTERVIEWED. Everyone on youtube is 30 or younger. We desperately need older people to share their wisdom and experience with us

Next she should write “The King’s Code” to help men get along with women more. Would be a good sequel ☺️

I have said this for a long time and Im really glad she validated it for me “ Women treat men like women who are not acting right.”

What I don’t understand is why women always seem to be the ones who have to adjust, learn, and hold space. I got a lot to learn I know. I’m still glad this popped on my for you page.

I feel triggered listening to this. I feel like we women always have to be the ones doing the effort even to understand and tolerate men's behaviour. We have the weight of society on our backs, we need to care for everything, think about everything, work, home, kids, groceries, clothes, men. Imagine our "natural" characteristics: being super conscious and aware of everything, and now put us in the society we have (which was mostly created and maintained this way by men) and realise how we are going to burn out quick. On top of that we still need to be the ones trying to be better, studying podcasts and books, therapy, about relationships, parenting, etc. Of course we expect reciprocity because WE NEED to share the load we have on our backs with someone. Of course I feel frustrated. 😅 I'm sorry about my rant, still found the podcast interesting and I was honestly surprised by how triggered I felt. It shows I have to work more on myself 🥵😅

Alison Armstrong changed my life. She is the key to living in harmony and balance within masculine and feminine relationships... Her work is revolutionizing, it may seem overly simplistic, but the truth is simple, the path is simple... Sometimes we over complicated things, Alison is here to save us all from creating more separation and distance between sexes.

It's as simple as acknowledging and praising what you want more of:) I decided to write a note of appreciation every day to my husband it transformed my own heart. There truly is so much that goes unnoticed and when you bring it into the light, it invites more! We both aren't the same people anymore and our marriage is a millions times better! Don't overlook the gift of appreciation. It will be a gift that comes back to you! It basically moves the energy cycle going in the positive direction.

I read this book a month ago or so.. literally saw the video and clicked.. soooo fast. I totally realized that we view men so wrong.. Must read for all women.

It’s funny my husband always interrupts me when we are having a conversation. He talks a lot. I’m the listener. So it gets frustrating when I’m trying to say something. We are working on it, when i bring it up. He always apologizes. ❤ we are a work in progress.

I found the part about “withholding appreciation” from men to be interesting! I don’t think it’s something I realized I was doing lol it’s like if my partner isn’t appreciating or even acknowledging my constant work around the house….why would I congratulate him for doing one singular task while I’m doing 50 💀😭 that’s a tough one for me!

I think the comments section is taking the entire context of this conversation out of proportion. If we do not consider a mans feelings, do not treat him with kindness. How can we expect the same in return longterm ?? This woman is talking about hard facts from years of research. No one is saying to centre men and let women roam/sacrifice for them no but at least take the time to understand the science of why men & women are differant and how to bridge the gap in between.

Omg this point at about 37 minutes. 😳😳😳 I always tell my husband to tell me when I have raccoon eyes... he says he will, but when I look in the mirror I have raccoon eyes - "hun why didn't you tell me I had raccoon eyes?" "I didn't see it" or "you look great!" 😂 this is so relatable!

Wow....women are focused on well being, men on providing. The explains so much. It should be obvious but ive never thought of it this way. Every time i get emotional im expecting him to hold and comfort me but he's trying to figure out why im crying and solve the "problem". Its so sweet to see he's trying to protect me from the threat (in this case, tears or whatever caused me to cry) and i had a hard time seeing it because im focused on well being (his presence, seeking comfort, encouragement etc).

What Alison calls 'puttering,' my husband calls the 'bumblebee approach.' A prime example is going shopping. A female, aka me, uses the bumblebee approach (which drives him crazy) by going in the store and going from one item to the next based on what attracted me on the way to what I went into the store for. Whereas a man, aka him, is focused on what he went into the store to get, purchases it, and leaves.

It's such a delight when a man takes care of all the details and leads the way...perfect for me to relax and soak everything in....ah!

Right.. why is it that most women including myself wake up go to work, clean the house on my days off, cook meals for us, wash his clothes, watch these type of podcasts to learn while he goes to work, then lies on the couch and plays Playstation games on his day off, where is his self awareness and how can i not jump to the conclusion he's superficial when all he displays is playing video games or watching tv when hes not at work..yet i have to show the appreciation????

I tried listening the way she said, and I have had days of praise from my husband. Just read and devoured the book in the last two days. I feel like this has been what I've been looking for.

As an INFJ woman, my conversations are diffused, interconnected, multifaceted whilst also being mindful of a culminating point of vision and meaning. So it seems I am internally androgenous haha It's always awkward trying to categorize and show differences when there is so much overlap and other elements involved Due to being highly intuitive (vs sensory minded women) and having adhd, I hyperfocus and cannot easily transition from one task to another. Really struggle with starting something Gender, personality, nurturing, culture, mental quirks, ptsd etc