The POWER Of Walking Away & Why It's EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE
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Published 2022-12-28
The number one biggest power move you can make is to actually walk away. When you walk away, you signify and signal value out and that is extremely attractive to other people.
And in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly why walking away is the biggest power move you can make. I'm gonna show you what not to do and why the opposite of that ends up pushing them away.
And also, I'm gonna show you the mistakes to avoid when doing this. Because when done correctly, not only will you feel safe within yourself, you feel like you don't need anyone else to come around and you'll maintain your power, and that changes everything as a reflection.
Now, this reminds me of a experience in my own life where I used to do the opposite of this. What I would do is, I would be in a relationship with somebody, and especially, I remember this in the first relationship I was ever in, where I would choose someone sometimes, that also wasn't entirely choosing me.
And what I would then do is if they would pull back at all I would then think there was something wrong with me. And I would try to change that and I would try to control the situation.
And by being overly like alert to what they wanted, to what they needed, by reaching out to them, it would then actually push them away and have the opposite effect.
But in the first relationship I ever had, I learned the power of walking away and it had the opposite effect of what I actually thought. So what happened was, this was one of my first relationships.
From seven to 15, I had like no freedom at all, wasn't allowed to date, wasn't allowed to go to school dances or anything like that, had a controlling ex-stepmom in my life, my dad divorced her when I was 15 years old.
All of a sudden, I have all this freedom. At about 17, that was when I had my first girlfriend. And it was a relationship where it was like I wasn't fully being chosen and I was okay with that. I was like staying in the relationship.
I remember at one point there was this school dance and instead of us going to the school dance together, she went with an ex-boyfriend and a lot of her friends and other people were like, "That's so messed up."
I didn't even think it was that. I was just like, "Oh, well that's just I'm not worthy," or something like that. And it was a dynamic where I felt like once again, there's something wrong with me.
And what ended up happening through this, is it was mainly because at that time, from seven to 15, I wasn't allowed to have friends. I didn't have as much social emotional maturity and I didn't have many friends at the time.
That was one of the reasons, I think, that relationship was so meaningful is 'cause I literally had no other friends or no other friend group for the most part.
What ended up happening is as her and I weren't really working out and we were like not together anymore, after a period of time, I started making new friends.
I started to expand my social circle. Then what happened is, there was another girl that I was interested in that actually liked me.
What ended up happening, ironically enough, is as I was moving into that, as I completely let go and I walked away from the situation because I started to understand my own sense of self-worth, and also at the time, I then would hear from other girls in high school and stuff that they were attracted to my brother and I, because we were actually then allowed to actually have our own look.
We grew out our hair. We were able to dress the way that we wanted because from seven to 15, it was very strict. We had to shave our head. It was like military almost. I started to realize, "Oh, I'm actually worthy," or not only am I worthy just 'cause of the external stuff but I started to feel more worthy within myself.
I remember that as I started to come to this conclusion, this awareness, I completely cut ties and let that go.
As I walked away from that, as I let that go, I remember at one point I got a call and this person was really desiring to get back together.
They really cared about me, It all of a sudden, brought all of this dynamic to where then they started to understand and become aware of my own sense of value.
And I'll never forget that, because it was when I completely let go and I started to choose myself, and then I started to recognize my own sense of worth within myself, and I started to expand my social group and I stopped putting all the attention on that, that's when the energy completely reverted and then all of a sudden that attraction was there again.
Even in a different way, at other times, even more recently, like the last five or six years, where I was in a relationship.
All Comments (21)
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“Anytime you choose somebody else that is not choosing you: you abandoning yourself!” NEEDED THIS!!
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Note to self: STOP abandoning yourself 💕
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That's solid information but don't forget... When you walk away, you have to MEAN it! You're okay if that person never comes back. You will completely (physically and spiritually) stop chasing! This is not about getting the other person to act in a certain way you want them to act. Keep that in mind. Stay true to yourself and stick to your boundaries. Love y'all ❤
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Walking away drew her back to me but when she came back I decided I was done for good. Stay strong partners.
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I always have long-term relationships because: 1. I give Space 2. I'm Not needy 3. I can walk away anytime
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This is so true. I walk away and really mean it. I don’t put up with foolishness. They either change their behavior and act like they have some sense or they leave me alone which is a blessing because I do not tolerate disrespect.
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Stop abandoning Yourself for others If they walk away, then no worries.... Trust me the universe will send you your kind of person So stop chasing them give them the space... ❤️
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Walking away is one of the most powerful moves when we aren’t being valued and especially when the other person is actually the one w the low value‼️
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Went through a breakup at the end of March. Since then, I've focused on sobriety (41 days sober today) eating better (almost 20 pounds down) and working out. She started seeing someone else, right away. But what I've realized, through focusing on myself is that I went from hoping that she'd change her mind, to knowing that I've changed mine. Thank you, Aaron, for being there and contributing to a part of my growth. (As of July 20th, I am over 30 pounds down and still doing and feeling fantastic!)
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Walk away. And never ever abandon yourself, again. It’s a power move. ❤
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That's why I love my Lord Jesus, he always walked away from toxicity without even arguing.
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At this point I’m not walking away from someone to be concerned about the other person, or to gain some sort of power. I’m doing this because I deserve to pour into myself, mind my own essence and enjoy my own world…. To show up for myself because that’s my responsibility. That’s my job. I’ve spent a lot of my life doing things for the world…. I just want to choose me without extra being attatched to it. whoever wants to be in my life, will simply be there because they love me, because they want to be. I don’t owe anyone a damn thing. And no one owes me anything. So anyone who wants to leave can surely go. As long as I don’t abandon myself to gain the world, I am fine.
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Stop abandoning yourself and choose yourself instead ❤
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I got tears in my eyes when you said "You're awesome! You're amazing!" Says at lot about my self-esteem.
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It's tough to move away, it hurts, but if you do, YOU WIN! Either they will see your worth & contact you (how you proceed is your perogative) or you never see them again, but you will know it wasn't meant to be 👍😊
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I believe this works. But something important to add, you have to have something to turn your energy to, when you walk away. You have to be on your own mission, if you want others to join in. This is some of the most unattractive traits that people can have, not being driven in any area of their lives.
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“Bring your energy back to yourself and stop trying to fix the situation.” Basically take those bricks out of your pockets and instead of trying to fix that broken situation use them as pavers back to you! ❤ There is no guarantee they’ll come back once they broke up with you and you walked away but it’s a guarantee you’ll find yourself along the way. ❤
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I walked away last night. I hope he wakes up, but I'm fully prepared to never talk to him ever again.
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This is so helpful, thank you. I'm in a relationship where the other person has way too much control over my emotions, and I'm experiencing a lot of breadcrumbing which is very painful. I really want to take back my own power and be happy with or without them.
