Transforming Grief – When I Lost My Only Child | Phil Cohen | TEDxYoungCirclePark

The pain is unbearable. Just when I had begun to heal from losing my 21 year old son 10 years ago from an asthma attack, my 26 year old daughter was killed on 10/30/22 by a drunk driver. I'm in the twilight of my life now and I long to be reunited with my children and husband.

This comment section should be empty. I hate the fact i need to search videos like this to understand and ease my pain. I lost a 2yo daughter 5months ago. Its unbelievable hard but I will fuking keep going for the sake of her twin sister. Stay strong fathers.

5:55 ‘Grief doesn’t always end at acceptance’. I really needed to hear this today.

I so needed to watch this, thank you. I lost my beautiful, smart, strong, joyful, 19-year-old daughter, to a car accident 5 weeks ago, and the world just collapsed. I have a 14-year-old daughter, and a wife, that need me, and my search for the strength to be here for them will continue on.

My only child drowned in the ocean a year ago. Coast guard searched for 21 hours. I am right here with all these thoughts. He was 17.

I know for me after loosing my son I want to live the rest of my life honoring his life.I will do more to give and help others.Donate my time.

I lost my 24 year old in 2021. Just hours after I got married. All in one day, the most devasted day of my life. She died in a horrific car accident.' I didn't know how to feel other than Broken, I couldn't believe she was gone. I kept thinking she was going to come to my house and say, "mom, I'm here, but I knew that wasn't going to happen. By the grace of God am still here and I can tell other ppl that God is faithful he's never left me or forsake me and I also know that I don't deserve his love but I know it's because of his grace and love that he has for us we are still here and one day I know I will see her again.

My heart joins every heart from every comment posted here.🙏🏽

To everyone who is in pain (I certainly am), keep searching for comfort in such links . Our loved ones would want us to find peace with them in our hearts ❤

Grief is yours alone, it is an expression of your connection with another person. Whether that is loud or quiet, numbing or overwhelming, it is yours and something which is between you and the person you lost. Labels are stifling for our humanity.

“Our grief is how we choose to honour and respect the ones we love”. This.

I lost my son due to cardiac arrest triggered by COVID 11 months ago. First time I felt so alone in my life. Nobody understands what I am going through. Seems like everyone is busy with their own affairs. The saying laugh and the world laughs with you weep and you weep alone is true for me. Never felt so isolated in my life. I am in the process of nurturing my spirituality through meditation which shifted my perspective about my son's death. May all those who are grieving find solace within.

My daughter died yesterday from a brain bleed my only child is gone my pain is unimaginable

I think it's also worth mentioning that not everyone has the same views on death, and that also impacts the grieving process.

My daughter passed away 7 months ago. and the pain is excruiciating to the core, the heartache is massive, the loneliness, navigating life without them, I have wept everyday and the only thing that sustains me is , i will see her again. I just cannot cope with analysing it all whether i am angry, sad, depressed, despairing, hopeful etc etc etc, I m all of it every day, People need to understand we will be sad for a very long time, we have to face all this emotion and burdened by trying not to make someone else sad with our sadness, or making their life sorrowful, but we cannot turn on happy switch we are just too broken to do that, so my advice is, let them cry and weep, hold their hand and hug them and please say less than more, give them the freedom to be who they need to be and you be the bigger person whilst they navigate the worst time of their life. xxxx

I lost my 25 year old daughter who was 6 months away from graduating from medical school. I lost her 9 days ago. Thank you for this video…😢😢😢

My daughter died in her sleep @ 19 yo, 4 years ago and my heart has been destroyed ever since. I loved my daughter to death, she was such a creative wonderful, loving, caring beautiful young woman. I don't know what to do! I feel like I'm dead inside. There is no ACCEPTENCE in my grief process, it feels unreal like I need to wake up from the worse dream of my life. A building fell on top of me!! A smile on my face has so much pain behind it. 😭🥺😭😭😭

I lost my 21 year old daughter March 24, 2022 to lupus! As a father I feel I’m slowly losing my battle each day. I feel alone! This video gives me hope! Such a helpless feeling!

My youngest son of 3- shot and killed himself 3 months ago. My heart has been ripped from my chest and I really don’t want to take my next breath

I lost my son 6 years ago at age 5. Thank you for this video, most of my grief centered around anger and failure as a parent. His mother intentionally caused his death, and it makes me feel like a complete failure as a parent. A feeling I can't shake. Constant feelings of emptiness and numbness. I've tried therapy, running from it, etc. Idk what to do, especially since life has continued to beat me down, I was laid off and lost everything, sometimes i just want to give up, Most of me died with my son. Videos like this give me hope.