MANDISA MASHEGO | A MUST WATCH EPISODE 🔥🔥🔥🔥

What I’ve learned in my recovery is to stop helping people. I am only responsible for me. Don’t take jobs that affect my emotions like social work, child guardian, or anything dealing with homelessness and domestic violence. These things drain me. I have had to cut off all family and friends, and go into hermit mode while I heal. I was a people pleaser who attracted energy vampires. These people demanded things from me and I gave because I wanted love, did not want to anger them, and wanted to be like Jesus. I am an ex Christian now. Giving up religion has also saved my life. I was indoctrinated and manipulated from childhood to be a doormat. I’ve stopped giving to the homeless in the street. There are organizations to help people, it’s not my job. Doing good deeds in order to get into heaven is not smart. Don’t take on other people’s karma. Leave them alone and get out of the way. Practice self care.

There's a difference between being an emphath and being a doormat for people. You find that most emphaths are wounded from a young age, and that can lead them to being people pleaser, and they often struggle with setting boundaries until they have healed themselves and are in their personal sovereignty. Healed empaths knows the importance of doing averything in moderation because they have highly developed personal power. In my opinion true empaths are those who have a balanced yin and Yang period.

I woke up today sobbing. Crying to God why things have gone the way they have in mylife. I dont feel am where am supposed to be. Had a reflection of my life, filled with regret, for so much i tolerated till now and am the one losing my soul and my self. Then a thought came to me, i feel every thing of whats happening to others and i give my self so much. Opened youtube for reference. Before i typed anything. Just opened youtube, this was the very first video that came up. I have never opened this youtube channel. This is God! Everything she has said. I have been. I have literally given up my whole life for everyone from childhood. my siblings, parents,spouse, work, friends, God, even scared to have children because i will not have any part of me left. Yet i want children soooo bad. I just want to disappear where no one knows me to be selfish for me for once.

I'm slowly moving away from being Empathetic, I feel guilty but I have really told myself that it's time to help myself now... Help myself be happy, help myself to be considerate to myself first before anyone else.. Give to myself more than to anyone else... Being empathetic is so draining as you grow older... I'm 31 years old btw, I've been placing others first for most of my existence

Having discernment in knowing who truly appreciate your empathy is key. Test the spirit behind the character!!!

The saying that's in heavy rotation right now is..... givers have to know their limits because takers have none. I know and understand that all too well. It took me well over 30 years to change. The portion of the interview labeled message needs its own snippet. So powerful!

Empaths get tested the most, I'm afraid; even in relationships, it is said we attract mostly Narcissists. I am learning to disconnect from this disease, but it is so hard because, as Mandisa says, every decline we make will leave us feeling guilty. I am thankful that there are platforms where we can learn to change our interactions with people, to stop feeling too much and to stretch ourselves thin for others. Thank you 🙏

I remember one of the things that saved me from this path coz as a child and teenager I was the worst ppl pleaser - was reading this somewhere "If you ever have to pi*s someone or yourself off - choose that person coz you remain with yourself and that irritation will be with you for some time.😊

My parents spent their lives giving and giving and sometimes at our expense as their children. They are pastors and people keep wanting to take away even more, when my dad retired people walked away coz there was nothing more to receive . It has been so sad to watch as he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after suffering depression for a while coz of this. I get this conversation so well coz I've had to recover from being an empath coz I've seen what it has done to both my parents. I really enjoyed this conversation, danko ❤

I wish i was aware of this many years ago i have been a giver for the very longest time. But then i never ever recieve much and i am ok now. I am recovering Empathie.

Being an Empath is so difficult. I'm also a recovering empath. I got drained got tired and realised I was being taken for a ride.

Best line: "Healing is something your do yourself"!....and for your soul.

USis’ Mandisa is having such a necessary talk for those of us who are empaths. She is basically narrating my life and I have just recently started to move away from this in regards to family and the guilt is overwhelming. Such a vital talk to share so we all know we are not crazy however we need a change to happen.

U are speaking to me....All the people I've helped are now my enemies....One person once said my biggest regret is making a nobody a somebody when they become somebody they think u a are a nobody..

Anything you do that is performative is your ego , Everyone on the planet has an ego, otherwise you would not survive, an Ego is your protective layer, its the layer that protects the real you, your ego is the layer of you that goes to war in order to protect your peace, Who is your peace ? the real you, the Godlike you, the baby you. Meaning the Ego is not inherently bad . There is the social, cultural, "fit into society part of you" that is the Ego, the performer that protect the "inner man", is the the EGO The performer "EGO" studies the culture and has to perform in order to fit in, that's why we take off our bra's as soon as we get home, the performance is over, the ego can relax and we can tend to our wounds or triumphs honestly.

I am sensing that she is a starseed... a Pleiadian Starseed to be particular. One of the biggest lessons that Pleiadian starseeds have to learn about in their lifetimes on Earth is the issue of excessive empathy! And listening to her speak seems like she has learnt that lesson in this lifetime. Kudos to her!

1 You will not find God in a church, yes you might vibrate at a frequency where the universe opens up to you and doors open for you. 2. what umama Mandisa is describing as cleansing your childhood trauma, and letting go of old beliefs by finding the inner you. That's what being born again is. 3. I am 32 years of age and lived with fear, anxiety, and childhood traumas that I was not aware of, I quit my job, went on full reset, literally went on full reset. I am reborn and technically 1 year and a couple of months old now, I have so many answers to dj sbu's questions and will one day share this knowledge for free because every black person must go through the experience I had.

Its crazy how some family members & friends only call when they need something. This episode is a eye opener. We going true a lot as a black child, black tax, black-mail, its just too much...

Loved this point mbokodo=rocks being thrown at you!The audacity of people hurting you and then say "She's resilient, she can take it" 😮So sobering❤

I'm an old soul. This interview and the interview with Mpho Sebeng are the best interviews thus far, that's just me.