Do This When He Pulls Away Or Acts Distant | Relationships Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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'What meant to be yours, will always be yours '.. 🌌 never chase , but attract

It's better not to disturb the guy anymore. Be confident. Better things are coming your way.

The strategy that I always use when my person pulls away is this: I run away to the hills as fast as I can and it resulted in my person chasing me. And when it happened I lost my interest in them and I dumped them like a doormat. I believe that if your person is in love and sure about you. They don't have to pull away and give you anxiety. A healthy person does not play mind games in a relationship. So PULLING AWAY is a red flag.

If a guy pulls back get busy with your own life. And when he steps forward again and asks you to go on a date, “sorry I’m busy, however I’m available on a certain day next week”. Just be busy with your own life so it doesn’t feel empty.

This happened to me in my last connection. I was so in love with him. He began getting distant so I asked if there was a problem and if he preferred to end the connection. He said no, apologized, and said he'd do better. In which he did. However, he soon fell off do I left the connection. He made me feel so undesired, undervalued, and a level of sadness I had never felt. Shattered my heart for no apparent reason. I was very good to him. Haven't spoken with him since. I'm still healing and getting myself together.

Don't chase him. Value yourself highly as I do.

What I’ve found that works for me is to assume he is legitimately busy and that it doesn’t have to do with me. That helps me get a little perspective and space. And remind myself that I’m going to be fine even if he does pull away. I’ve got me.

Absolutely handling it with class is so important. You have to come from a place of knowing that you are enough and deserving of love, and carrying yourself with that knowledge.

If he pulls away he can stay away.
Adults discuss things not run away like a child.

If a man says that is his way of dealing with stress (ghosting or ignoring) and he isn't going to change, walk away babe. You're better than that. Life is too short and there is someone else out there seeking you. God's redirection is your protection.

Hmmm……The guy I was with for 13 months became distant both physically and emotionally over a couple of weeks. I asked him ‘are you okay? You seem to have a lot on your mind and feel distant.’ He denied there was anything wrong. I noticed his texts also became shorter and more formal. So I asked if we could talk and went to see him. I explained how I felt and asked him how he felt things were going. That’s when he admitted he didn’t feel that we could move any further in our relationship and broke things off. No big arguments, all very calm. So I’ve taken him at his word and not made contact for eight weeks. He’s not made any contact either. So I guess he decided he wasn’t that in to me after all! Such is life. I’m still hurting, but I have great friends and family, so I’m getting on with my life. I’m not turning into a wailing hermit for someone who doesn’t reciprocate my feelings and I’m keeping things in perspective. I’m widowed so I’ve faced and come through worse things than being dumped 😊

When he pulls away, I lost interest too. It’s such a turn off that I couldn’t look at that guy again. Because if he really liked me he would not pull away (and I’m not talking about pulling away for couple of days). Life can be very miserable with the wrong person. 🤷‍♀️

I love that you said "half of finding the right guy is saying no to the wrong guy more quickly". Thank you so much :)

When I guy pulls away
You walk away. Simple
Don't waste your energy girls
Just love yourself and enjoy life 🥂

"To attract the right guy you've gotta to be will to scare off the wrong guy", note taken.

I experienced this twice in my relationship. First, near beginning of our dating. He pulled away. I went 30+ days no contact unless he contacted me. Then went direct. Went to see him in person. Had the conversation. He was fearful he couldn't be what I needed as he works away from home 6 months of year. Obviously there was something special about this guy. We worked through this and 4+ years later, here we are. Being in our 60's, no future is promised but we are living, loving, each day together. ❤

Ok, I'm going to be brutally honest with this one:
Girls , guys pull away because they loose interest. It's either because they already benefited from you, got what they want and moved to the next one, or, because they can't meet your standards (if you want a high quality relationship/ to be taken seriously and he doesn't want anything serious, etc).
Just try not to rush things, keep your standards high, don't fall for false promises, don't rush into sleeping with them on the early stages of your relationship. Give time, in order for him to get to know you enough to invest in your relationship. He needs to be there for you, as much as you want, not when he just have the time to do so. Remember, it's a man's job to chase. It's a man's job to conquer. And it's your job to make him crave for more. Be smart. 😏😉

The old pulling away act has happened to me three times where I really cared. I'd cry and moan to my friends, relatives, the dog, anyone who would listen, but leave him completely alone. The problem is that when he came back usually within three months, I really didn't care about him anymore and I had moved on. Yep, three months is usually how long it takes for him to change his mind about me and I about him. Why would anyone want to be with a person like that for a lifetime is beyond me.

Let him go, I no longer do the in & out especially if i' m ghosted/ ignored, I know my worth , you missed a good thing and that' s your loss, I don' t pressure or chase and I continue to focus on myself💗💗💗