High-range narcissists (watch out for them!)

Being in a relationship with these type of people is like being in a chess game with a chess master when you don’t know chess

When I was a lad, our family would be having supper around the table. At times, I would look up to see an expression of absolute hate and contempt on my mother's face directed to me. She would be absolutely frozen. Then, she'd suddenly throw a drink across the table into my face. Her beatings, slappings, fingernail gouges began when I was age four and continued until I was too big. After that, she resorted to the soul-killing insult. The people who "saw" always said I was a kind and sensitive person. I've spent six decades trying to convince myself that my mother was simply mentally ill or something. Not anymore. I now consider her to have been an evil person. No more excuses for her. But if I said this to any outsider who was acquainted with her, they'd be shocked that I could disrespect such a wonderful person! She had them deceived; which compounds the evil. The life of an empath can be very, very lonely. But Doctor Ramani understands! Thanks so much to her!

My ex was exactly like this. Something people often don't realise is just how long it takes to recover. People expect you to just walk away and pick up your life the next day, but it takes many, many years.

Are you kidding? A thumbs up, Dr. Ramani? You deserve a crown! A Nobel Peace prize!!! A shrine!!! 😊 💓💓💓

The last night I saw my ex was the third (and most severe domestic violence incident). My ex had a Google Nest camera in our living room. I was never allowed access. His big rage triggers were when I went out with friends. One night, after having drinks with my best friend and cousin, I came home with my "Grey Rock" game face on. After gently talking to him while he raged at me, I stood up from the couch and he attacked me....Needless to say, grey-rocking went out the window. I said "F*ck you! It's all on camera" I pointed up to the camera...and it was GONE. It was like something out of a thriller movie. He had taken it down before I got home. This was when I could confirm that his actions were not just impulsive...they were calculated.

I went out twice with a new guy. I didn't like him right away he was negative and cynical. When I talked about my job he made a statement about my part time status and tried to tell me what I should do. The one thing I did notice was even though I didn't enjoy his company yet there was a weird magnetic pull almost like a hypnotic trance. I wouldn't kiss him but he insisted on giving me a peck. There were miniscule boundry breaks. I went out with him the second time and I saw more boundry breaks and odd little punishing behaviors. If you are out with a guy and you know you don't like him but there's a force you can't explain. Then get out.

This was definitely my father. Our house was characterized by fear. Emotional survival growing up meant constant vigilance navigating control and manipulation and not setting off the landmines that led to fits of rage, belittling, and violence (although sometimes I would egg them on when I got a little older, like in my teens. I don't really know why). In adulthood, it has been a struggle to learn how to be authentic. My heart goes out to anyone actively living through this.

The malignant narcissist I know is so full of hatred that I swear she has to have a demon in her! These things are very scary!

That's so fascinating to me and SO true that narcs absolutely treat you well or mistreat you based on how useful you are

The rage is terrifying. 💯 Rage unlike anything you’ve ever seen.

The ex-narcissist in my life even said it's good when people are afraid of him...with a certain smirk in his face. He confused it with respect....

Just knowing these people exist and are actual humans sends shivers down my spine...

You have described my “ Mommy Dearest” to a T. In fact, when I was a kid, the closest explanation for her behaviour was the movie “ The exorcist”. The rage, the black eyes, the demonic low guttural tone in her voice as she uttered the words “ YOU WILL!” scared the hell out of me as a kid. She parented through fear and ultimatums yet outside of the home she was seen as wonderful and engaging. We watched my Dad become a shell of himself through her coercive control.

Yes! Speak out every chance you get they terrify us into submissive silence. We are panicked and on edge literally afraid for our lives due to private cruelty, then they charm the pants off your loved ones by telling them we are "acting unstable because they didn't say our dress looked nice" (or something equally trivial). Escape for your lives, no matter who you lose in the fallout, don't utterly lose yourself.

Machiavellian, cruel, and sadistic... That was my experience with this type. I still have flashbacks (PTSD) from it.

The devil I was married to treated me worse than shit in front of his kids and family but sprinkled a few good times when we were together. Thank god for you. I’m aware and alive

I'm sure if I wouldn't have left my narc when I did I could have ended up dead. Sick, twisted, evil, malevolent...not enough adjectives to describe the evil. Thank you for helping so many people Dr. Ramani, you're a blessing.

This is my father. To this day, the absolute scariest man I have ever encountered. My mother is highly narcissistic with a hair trigger, no empathy. Fire and ice. To say I grew up in a volatile home situation is a huge understatement. I was severely abused in every way possible. I have to down play stories of my childhood because of the look of terror on my friends faces when I tell stories. I grew up in a nightmare. But I have been no contact for 18 years. I have been through intense therapy. I have been studying everything I could get my hands on about narcissism and psychopathy. Your channel has gotten me through the pandemic - when I needed to “clean house” and remove some toxic covert friends from my life. Knowledge and validation is why I’m still alive. Knowing that your channel is a reliable source, not just based on someone’s one time experience with a narcissist. But a lifetime of working with and around these people. You are my go to. I recommend you to all my friends going through narcissistic abuse. Please don’t stop.

My dad is like that. He used to take me out to run errands, and hide whenever I got distracted. From his hiding place he watched me while I got worried and started crying, and he wouldn't come out until someone else offered me help. He laughed and pretended I had wandered away. And he followed my mom to and from work after their divorce.

My mom is a phenomenal actress and I lived in fear my entire childhood, especially because nobody believed me or helped me. I actually hid in a closet with a knife once when she was in a fit of rage. I spent my childhood wishing I was anywhere but there with her. I actually fantasized about not waking up the next morning just to be put out of my misery