Talk to your D&D party like an adult, please

Yeah, someday those puns will go from prototype to fish. They'll get beta & betta.

Ginny is slowly evolving from “Cool Cosplay Gal" to “D&D Mom" and I'm here for it!

"Life advice loosely disguised as D&D advice" is EXACTLY what I was thinking before you said it

"Honesty isn't an excuse to be unkind" -Ginny Di I really like that a lot. <3

"It's inevitable that conflicts will arise" Me: (nods) "I think a lot of us don't really have the emotional or social tools to navigate conflict in a healthy way" Me: (nods intensify)

Another great entry in the "actually D&D can be a vector to be a better person" canon. Also Bob sounds like a real jag.

"Better armed for potential future issues" My decision to bring my greatsword to game night has been validated

This taught me more about anything than the stupid social emotional learning course we take in school every year.

I think a lot of the people on social media asking for "help" are perfectly aware that they need to communicate. Their asking online is A, a way to find out if their worries are valid (and/or if other viewpoints exist in a reference group they trust) and B, what words to use when voicing their concerns. Finding words for emotions is really hard and if you aren't prepared, it's easy to get steamrollered and not be able to stand your ground.

I feel like I was tricked into therapy and I am here for it.

This really isn't just about TTRPGs. This is really good conflict management advice in general, applicable to almost any situation.

I actually really like the “It’s Alice’s turn, Bob is up next” idea for combat - might help with speeding up looking up spells time.

I sat in on a convention panel in which "professional" GMs counseled solving in-game issues with in-game retaliation. It was truly cringe. I felt bad for all the newb DMs there that might take that bad advice to heart and create short-lived toxic tables that would only serve to drive people away from the hobby. Thank you so much for your video. Breath of fresh air.

As a DM named Bob listening to this in the background, I feel personally attacked. /s

As someone with severe anxiety who is terrible at taking on conflict, this was very helpful. Thank you!

Great and helpful video! I really like the acknowledgment that conflict can occur without one singular wronging/wronged party because of various playstyles or communication gaps.

"F*cking Bob!" 🤣😂 I am HERE for a Short about all the ways that he pissed off the rest of the group, lol!

The commentary about Avoiding Essentializing is super important for more than just role-playing, or even just communication. If you can strip that out of your thinking in general, it'll lead to a lot less personal negativity and anxiety and prevent communication problems from even starting.

The only thing worse than conflict at the table is the lack of it; when players or DMs keep their issues to themselves and end up dropping out of the game, never saying why. The person with the problem never gets resolution or the chance to be heard. The person causing the problem never gets the opportunity for self-reflection or change. I've done the disappearing act myself and I later came to realize it was a pretty selfish thing to do. Even worse than someone dropping out, is someone dropping a vague message about their dissatisfaction before ghosting you!

8:20 In my experience, people who consider themselves "brutally honest", are generally more interested in the brutality. Honesty can hurt, but how it's being delivered doesn't need to be delivered harshly.