“Before kids, I made $20k/month. Now he wants me to be a housewife”

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You know what the issue is? My man talks the talk about being the most masculine person. But it is so incredibly fragile.... his masculinity depends on his wife and his surroundings. He has to put people beneath him to feel masculine. That is the weakest kind of masculinity that I can think of. My man, time to grow up.

No one is saying this: KARA NEEDS TO LEAVE DRAKE. He's condescending, manipulating, toxic man, quite frankly emotionally abusive. KARA LEAVE HIM.

Ugh. My heart goes out to Kara. He wants her to play small so he can feel big.

So let me get this straight, she makes more than him AND is the main care giver for the children but she still needs to cook for him and wash his clothes? Oh hell no. Toxic masculinity at its finest.

Drake literally said he needs meals to be prepared for him and his clothes cleaned and then said "I want to be your rock" to Kara. The degree of internal contradiction is astounding

Looks like everyone is getting a crash course in the concept of the "submissive provider" where men desire a lifestyle they cant afford alone but then demand the most old school traditional life benefits from their provider wife. They also typically want alot of public and private credit for the lifestyle they barely contributed to.

This whole episode was scary, from their absolute lack of savings to Drake’s insane expectations of a mother of a 4 week old, I’m a bit shaken. When my babies were 4 weeks old I was in a haze of hormones and exhaustion. This poor woman also has to keep them from being evicted, AND worry about making him feel like a man. Oy. This match only worked when she didn’t need him.

I don’t think I’ve seen an episode of Ramit that upset me more than this one. I feel so bad for Kara and the lack of empathy/compassion that her husband shows for her

Hold on... this lady gave birth a MONTH ago and he's having her on here demanding her cater to his demands bc he wants to feel like an earner? Why doesn't he have more empathy for his wife who has just pushed a human out of her body? 😮

This guy’s entire identity is that ONE 17k month lmfaoooo

Did anyone else gasp out loud when he said he didnt want her to be stressed because it will affect the breastmilk??? You know, instead of not wanting his wife to be stressed because shes a human being, and not a cow?

We desperately need a “where are they now” episode. Because this was so difficult to watch.

When I tell you the tears that almost came to my eyes when Drake said he needs a morning to sleep in???? To his WIFE and BREASTFEEDING MOTHER OF 2 CHILDREN UNDER 2?????? There's no reforming that.

Maybe if he makes 20k a month they could hire a nanny for him. He has done nothing but diminish this capable successful woman. I don’t get WHY she allowed this to happen to her. He says you are my gas but is upset that she doesn’t need him to be her ‘gas’

Imagine putting this level of stress on your wife who just had a baby FOUR WEEKS AGO. This is not a provider or protector, this is a boy in a grown body. This poor woman is literally sleeping with her own hater. Sad.

Kudos to them for coming on here and being honest. Drake really needs to reevaluate life. Kara… girl im praying for you.

Drake needs to cook his own meals and let his wife make more. Simple. She has the better and more solid earning potential.

Kara should proceed with caution. This one hits home. I gave up my career, had similar discussions with my ex. When he was solely financially responsible, the relationship turned abusive. It’s hard to hear his perspective and listen to him ignore everything she is saying and pivot towards this power play. He wants servitude. He is weaponizing motherhood , archaic gender roles and sacrificing the stability of their family because if his ego. Completely devoid of logic. I was in a similar relationship where we were both high earners. My ex very nicely, weaponizing all The things this young man is…hopefully seeing the response to this it’s a wake up call for both.

One of the most frustrating episode I've ever watched here. Drakes red pill take on life and Kara trying hard to accommodate it was absolutely insane. I know she has control issues and she is bringing challenges to that relationship but Drakes issues far outweighs her. They've been together 13 years but he refers to ONE MONTH ONLY where he made more money than her. He is not a provider. He should accept she's the primary breadwinner and he's a contributer, and that is the team dynamic they have. And as a contributer, he should be a better teammate in raising their children and household duties. Be a partner, thats a better role for you.