4 Psychological Tricks To Make People Respect You Instantly

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1. Be calm in situations where most people would show fear; 2. Hold eye contact during conflict; 3. Don’t let other people dictate where your attention goes; and 4. Be honest even when it goes against your best interest.

“Attitude is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” Roy T. Bennett 🖖

Alfie Solomons (as played by Tom Hardy) is one of the greatest characters in television history.

1. Be calm in situations where most people would show fear 2. Hold eye contact during conflict 3. Don't let other people dictate where your attention goes 4. Be honest even when it goes against your best interests

The 3 second rule helps alot. I used to just pop off with my first verbal jab just to prove they didn’t want to argue with me. Over time, I realized I didnt want to win that way. Staying calm, pausing and saying what needs to be said, not what I want to say. Im the type of guy that doesn’t talk much, I’ll show interest in the convo, but not much banter. Then when i speak up, even to interrupt, my words hold more value with their unsaturated rarity. I commanded respect from top level professionals when I knew i was in the right. Dont be a victim, speak up, clearly.

“I started my life with a single absolute: that the world was mine to shape in the image of my highest values and never to be given up to a lesser standard, no matter how long or hard the struggle.” Ayn Rand

Both Tommy and Alfie always command attention and respect when in any place but in completely different ways. Tommy is calm, calculating, and unreactive while Alfie is loud, unpredictable, and intimidating. The one thing both share in common is intelligence.

As someone who has spent thirty years in public service jobs, I've had numerous opportunities to use such tactics. They definitely work. When dealing with rude, angry people it pays to be cautious with them. Remain calm and collected always.

Great content. 1) when you pause it makes the other person feel you are thinking about their feelings or request, giving them some hope. Works in many situations. When you react immediately it makes a person feel as though you weren’t listening at all and that you were just waiting to say what you wanted to say.

Having to do with eye contact and eye direction: While walking towards any location, stare directly at the path you are going to take. People will move out of your way because they see that you have a purpose and a clear mode of direction. It's like parting the Red Sea. I use this daily for work and it helps wonders especially in crowded areas as most people are looking around, down on their phones, or otherwise not sure where to go.

Not dropping your eye contact when someone interrupts sounds like the most respectful and sweet thing ever.

"Don't apologize just to avoid conflict." If you feel that you're often in this situation, it's time to drop those people anyway.

A few years ago back in NYC, I was droping off my ex at her place after a movie. As I headed home a guy pulled a gun on me and tried to rob me. I had only a 20$ on me and thought if he got pissed off I was dead. I reminded calm and collected, and started a dialog. Guy responded and we spent the next 20 or so minutes talking about how F---Ed up life had gotten. I remember these words clearly "I was going to rob you, but there's something different about you and it doesn't feel right". He started to walk away and I told him to hold up and gave him the $20. I of course called the cops right after. I got lucky but he still had weapon and was ready to commit a crime. I hope he decided to not do it anymore. Times are tough but we shouldn't be in a position to harm others just to live. Anywho, 580 comments I doubt this will even get looked at, but I was reminded of that day when he was calm and honest with a gun in his face. Feel like it might be harder to lie and convince someone with a gun on you when the person you are lying to can just end your life if they feel wronged.

"tell the truth and then you don't have to remember anything" is what I say to my friends about honesty

When someone gets really mad or angry at me, I calmly say: "I love people who show passion", it usually disarms them and gives me time to think about my next move.

I love Tom Hardy's acting. That "f**kin' ell look at that" when Arthur threatened him was hilarious and felt like such a real, raw, reaction.

Can you please do a video on the late great Norm Macdonald!!

Many years ago I took a job as an engineering area manager in the UK. My boss had this trait where he would do just this...go silent for several seconds rather than immediately respond. It earned him the nickname of "Antichrist" with the other area managers. It was extremely off putting in meetings & definitely works to get someone rattled!

When I’m in a conversation with people and someone butts in and the person I’m engaged with has turned to engage with the other person I walk away and I don’t engage with either of these people again until they engage and apologize. It drives them crazy, I simply wont be dismissed by either of them.