Is S/he a Narcissist? Use These TESTS! (Compilation)

I have always called narcissists emotional vampires. They have no emotions of their own so they suck them out of you. That sums up my old marriage and that's all I'm going to say about that, draw your own conclusions, or not. I'm waaaay past that now, what a nightmare that was.

Prof. Sam!! You are the funnest Narcissist I ever listened to. I love your dry humor!!! Thank you !!! So enjoy listening to you teach!!! My life has been littered with Narcissism All my life. From my Mother to the Mother in Law. And finally married one who had an entire family of .......or a cult of Narcissist .I am now 70 yrs old. My Narcissist life partner died 1 YR ago. His sexual addiction rendered him with a sexually transmitted disease (HPV). Which developed into throat cancer and eventually killed him along with Covid 19. So sad but a blessing to me. His infidelity was of the Serial variety . Many ..many partnets over a 45 yr period. I have been through therapy for narcissist abuse. I am now healed and moving forward in N.C. You are a great help with the mommy deal. Really helped me understand what role I played over the years. Thank you much!!

I was so trauma bonded to my first long-term ex boyfriend that I'm still casual friends with him. I have no romantic feelings for him anymore, and will never be romantic with him again. Yet I can't let go of him completely. I hate that I've handed over that kind of power to him, and I'm trying to take it back. I've stopped texting him happy birthday and merry Christmas. I still remember him telling me when we were 15 that he was the only man for me. That I could search the world over for someone else, but I would be searching for him. I would find men with aspects of his personality, but they wouldn't be all him, which would leave me feeling unfulfilled. That manipulation drove me back to him for many years after I should have left him behind. He was somewhat right. My husband of over a decade does some have similar positive traits. He lacks, however, my ex's abusive and self victimizing tendencies, among other negative traits. But I guess I'm unfulfilled, haha. Joke's on him I feel genuine happiness and mutual respect in my marriage. Something I never felt with him.

I have to hand it to all the social services people; the psychiatrist, psychologists, counselors, attorneys and doctors and other professionals that have come forward to help where they've seen a need. Thank you !

Loved the seldom known historical life and influence of Carl Jung.

Yes this is what i have been waiting for... I gotta decide first if i am a full fledged narcissist or merely a narcissistic borderline codependant! Then find out the truth about the people i am attracted to. Let's see. Thank you!

Good morning from the USA 🇺🇸 I look forward to today's conversation. Thank you so much for sharing knowledge and empowering a large community that would otherwise be in the dark.

I love video lectures. I wish my entire university experience was this

He’s definitely a narcissist no doubt in my mind. Very dark cruel, mean, hateful, betraying deceptive discard. Very drunk and heartless too

Never got an apology from my ex. All offences were jokes.

Getting to echo the title of Unicorn because I find I fit the 5 traits irresistible to a predator has lightened the load of responsibility I feel both of the times I heard these. I have really appreciated gaining a language for my experience with entraining by a man I believe is an anti-social serial killer who had spent six months grooming me to be a partner-predator. Did I outsmart him and escape, or did he let me go? Your instructions on No Contact were important to me leaving him as I was emerging as a psychopathic preserver of Myself. I have listened to the sound of your melodic voice probably more than I should as your lessons soothe me and point me toward other areas I sometimes get curious about. Your lessons on nothingness and ambivalence dilemmas have really helped, especially the self-state model since I definitely experienced a brainwashing and more distinct switching around an overwhelming trauma bond addiction. I'm still trying to find appropriate help and struggle about positive feelings for the predator. One of the videos I can't recall the title of included instructions for the victim to list all the bad things they had done and read it three times a day. I'd like to find that advice again. Also, I need a therapist who knows about this kind of psychological attack and these subjects, someone more specific to these circumstances as the ones I've tried meeting so far haven't offered a lot of confidence about brainwashing and deprogramming. I appreciate your work and hope that your life in Budapest will bring bright times and allow you to continue sharing these topics with the public, especially since your words have encouraged me so much when I needed them the most.

I believe your very accurate about that point system.

My ex I believe had his disorder in check until 7 years ago his family exposed him and wrote him out of a Will. He went full blown malignant narc and it's been getting worse . He's completely delusional, has out of body experience, was supporting another woman on my dime, and dresses in a most bizarre way now. It's very sad.

Professor you da best!🙏

Amazing video thsnks a lot

Здравствуйте. Вам Привет из России. БлагоДарность Вам за Знания, которые даёте. Очень Доступно и Интересно.😀🙏 Не все умеют переводить, поэтому мы слушаем вас на других каналах, но с переводом.

Thank you for the excellent content Prof Vaknin. The three R's method is the first of its kind that I've heard on identifying narcissism and I have watched hundreds of youtube videos on the subject. This is why I have been binging on your channel. Also, you have opened my eyes on the fact that I fulfill a lot of traits that narcissists look for. On the positive side, I am also the kind of woman who has the guts of exiting the shared fantasy. Blaming is still a struggle and a taking blame for everything was groomed into me years ago but therapy will help with that. I want to ask a question. I had a heated argument with my partner's narc dad in front of my narc and my dad and our two children. It was about whether I have a say in how to punish/discipline our daughter or not. It gave rise to a huge row and my narc hasn't talked to me for four months now. I get cutting remarks of course and shaming, as does our daughter. I know his dad berated him for not controlling me and my daughter (who takes after me and is defiant as well because she knows I am standing with her), passive aggressively of course, nothing direct for them. Could this have resulted in mortification or injury?

Hey Sam, your mind and expertise is fascinating. I came to know a lot through your book and videos. I'd love to see more positively charged towards growth videos rather than rumination and I'd like to remain a subscriber since you are a role model to me. All the best!

My Narcissist said he was here to help humanity and said he had spiritual downloads...I think he heard voices sometimes

I like the mbti too. I don't like the way the internet has ruined it. People will take the test over and over to get the "unique" personality type, or they will just lie about it. It is annoying. They dont get that this test is more than a fun little quiz. I first took the mbti in 1996 and knew nothing about it at the time. I was shocked and felt so validated once I knew my type. It told me why...why I experienced life the way I do, why i feel the way I've felt in life. It also pointed to my issues and what I should work on. It changed my perspective in so many ways and caused me to do a deep lifetime dive into mbti and Jung. I'm able to type others I know and I'm right most of the time. That wouldnt be possible if it was the same as astrology and horoscopes. My type has not changed since 1996. I have taken the MBTI about 7-10 times since 1996, and I'm always the same type. It hasn't changed in a few other close family who have taken it over the years either. The mbti has an esoteric quality, which makes sense because of its origins, and it is much more than a personality sorter.