the truth about being transgender: my detransition story

I am a 39-year-old trans woman and I firmly believe that there should be more gatekeeping for transitioning, there needs to be better education about the risks involved, and there are some very serious risks for anyone medically transitioning. I am happy that you did find your true self and I am sorry that the journey had to take you down a potentially dangerous path. As far as your trans friends shunning you for detransitioning, they weren't real friends. A real friend doesn't care if you are trans or not, they should care that you are happy with who you are no matter where you are on your journey to find yourself.

i’m a detransitioned teenage girl (ftmtf) and you’re right. my mental health was terrible and i hated my body, therefore i thought the way out was to transition. glad i haven’t, because i don’t want to permanently damage my body.

So happy for her she didn’t do anything irreversible. ❤ totally normal to have a “tomboy” phase, or to feel uncomfortable during puberty.

this video honestly made me realize i only want to transition because of my past experiences of sexual abuse and the fact that i dont want to be sexualized by men. thank you, i will try to understand myself better

I'm a transgender person and I can honestly say I hate a lot of what the modern transgender community has become. They say they want to be loved and accepted for who they are while at the same time being hateful towards people and having no acceptance of people with differing opinions and no acceptance for detransitioners. And at the same time push these stuff onto other people thinking they're life will be so much better afterwards and not saying a word of what negative stuff could possibly happen afterwards. You're an amazing person and thank you for sharing your story. And I think after this youre going to be getting support from so many people. Wish you all the best in whatever the future brings.

I'm convinced I would have thought I was trans if I was a child nowadays instead of in the 90s. When I was a kid, I was just a bullied, depressed tomboy and I eventually started to feel better about myself once I got older. I'm so glad I got to have the opportunity of learning to love myself.

What an intelligent and articulate young woman. Why can't we be having this debate more openly in the current madness?

I think you brought up a good point-puberty is hard-children need to know how hard it is.

I'm detransitioning back to a man after 50+ years. It's hard! You are a beautiful soul. Live your life!

I also used too see myself as non binary but never came out, now I’m glad about that lol. I’m starting to take pride in my femininity AND masculinity, as a woman. And I am in love with your glow of self love!🤍

Im kinda in a transition stage in my life. I thought i was part o the LGBTQ community for almost 3 years now and im just relizing that i was heavily miss guided. I now face the fact that i need to come out to my friends as straight which i find to be very hard. I dont want to be desowned by my very "woke" friends and im scared that everyone else will think i was lying to get attetntion. The fact is that for many years I truly belived I was anything but staright. I have this inner hate for myself because i am straight and im so angry that i was so miss guided by the media. There were times when i even belived I was non binary or trans. I just wanna go back and undo all the damage that was done to me.

When i was 12 I started the transition and i started to identify as a trans men, and i started to isolate myself from my family and i started to take some testosterone pills ( against my parents) , and now i really regret. and if i made some kind of surgery or something like that for be a Man, i would regret this for the rest of my life, cause i was just a confused child.

This is so true about people today : "Aligned their identity so fully with their gender or sexuality."

I was a child in the '90s. I come from a generation where being a tomboy was considered normal for many girls; nobody cared about it. I had some "tomboy-ish moments" myself just because I didn't like skirts and dresses; I wasn't at ease with puberty as well transitioning from a young girl to a young woman brought some challenges and questioning, and there was nothing wrong or abnormal with that. It terrifies me because I probably would have fallen for this ideology if I were that same teen in today's world using social media. Your video is fantastic, stay strong.

Thank you for sharing this! So many people are struggling with this and need to hear your message.

As someone who’s FTM Thank you for being so calm throughout the video. Thank you for sharing your experience. I do think a lot of people mix up the experience of depression and puberty with gender dysphoria. I do believe that people should have to go the therapy to transition and should have to be 18 the problem is people who don’t let their kids social transition because I think that would help with them figuring themselves out. Transitioning is definitely not a fix all for body image issues and depression. I’m lucky enough to have a mom who isn’t your stereotypical girl imagine. She likes hunting and fixing cars and doing things people would label aimed towards men because I think growing up that sit a line for me to understand that girls don’t have to be feminine or girly. I love my mom even if she doesn’t agree with me.

As an old granny I have become convinced it’s best to live as a medical minimalist getting only a short list of surgeries

i am a trans man and i agree with every point you’ve made - it’s becoming cult-like and dangerous

What a smart young woman. As a trans man I agree with most everything you said. I am so glad you are giving voice to the issues of today. On behalf of the ENTIRE LGBTQ🏳️‍🌈 I APOLOGIZE for the behavior of some of the members of our alliance. Please remember I, myself, at least respect you very much. Please continue your work. It is indispensable

This is really weird to watch with where I live. I needed 3 psychological evaluations to get bottom surgey. And even horomones I need a year of therapy. I transitioned when I was older(by that I mean 18) so that makes it even weirder for me to see this. Especially since I grew up around a trans sibling and friends. But I never really thought about my body issues until I was 17. Even than I only realized I was trans when tried really hard to be a man Edit: I agreed with most of the video. Just got to the end. I was with you through out all of this. But they do tell you the changes of testosterone is permanent? They have to, legally tell you that. So either your doctor was shit or you didn’t really get close to transitioning other than socially. Which is why it’s always recommended to socially transition before medically. Cause than you can realize it was not you. Like you did