Boss Up and Change Your Life - Make the best first impression - Get respect

Thank you so much for this video. So helpful and clear and kind and exactly what I have needed to hear. As a creative person in academia, I’ve always tried to stay true to myself by wearing my free spirited, artsy clothes, but I have learned there is a price to pay. I remember sitting in a circle of teachers, all of whom were wearing suits. We were asked a question and each person answered in turn. When the facilitator came to me she simply skipped over me as though I weren’t there. I don’t think she meant to do that; I think that I was functionally invisible in that environment because of my clothes. The irony was that the department chair said I was the best teacher in the program, but I never dressed the part. I was rebelling against what I saw as a boring tyranny of corporatized education- but I see now that it didn’t serve me. What I’m taking from all this is that if you want to succeed, dress for the game you are playing. Thank you again.

Thank you so much for this information. I also want to share the psychology of color. Darker coolers, especially Navy blue invoke a feeling of authority. You instinctively chose that color!

This came at exactly the right time. After all of these years of being told I need to follow certain rules for dressing for work, you are the FIRST one who explained WHY and made it make sense.

I agree that whatever your work dress culture, keeping yourself and your ideas the focus instead of your clothing is key. My "boss" wardrobe move is "the third piece", as in, a top, a bottom, and either a blazer, a cardigan or a crisp overshirt/shacket. I have worked in manufacturing, the creative fields, the knowledge field and traditional business environments (all very different types of work dress culture). Dark neutrals are bossier than light. Monochrome and subtle patterns are bossier than brilliant colors and bold patterns. Excellent tailoring on crisp-lined pieces is bossier than flowy, sensuous fabrics. Don't forget handbags, totes, briefcases, footwear, outerwear and umbrellas. Sturdy, durable, no-nonsense accessories with clean lines and few embellishments that are appropriate for the context speak "boss". Nothing is worse than creating the boss illusion, only to destroy it with a trendy backpack, a juvenile umbrella, worn shoes, or any accessory more appropriate for clubbing or a picnic, or something that creates a hazard or an obstacle in performing your work.

You’ve been needed young lady for a long time! Tell the truth like you’ve been doing. Love this 😁

Yes! High standards. And people will not like it.

Thank you Diana. You are so wise, patient, generous, caring, and realistic. Be the Boss when bossness is needed, be the Fun Feminine Queen Baddie ALL the rest of the time!

Really impressive presentation. Couldn't agree with you more. Local news stations across the country would do well to have their female presenters view this video.

Thank you Diana. You are so wise, patient, kind, generous, and realistic. Be the Boss when bossness is required. Be the Queen Baddie all the rest of the time!

I am keeping my standards 😁

I love the look! Actually that’s the classic look 😁

This is excellent information, and comprehensive.

Excellent advice here especially for recent grads. I always kept 2 blazers in my office (or, car), a heavier one for cold temps & one for summer) that way you can always throw one over your shoulders if you go to a meeting. Keep a lint roller & little sewing kit with dbl-sided tape 4 wardrobe emergencies. The inner work of doing your work is essential; the more you know the less you will fill up conversation with the ums, ahs, & the most-dreaded-word that shows your immaturity “LIKE.” Carry a business folder to corral your papers/laptop. No funky tote bags, think structure. You don’t have to pay for expensive leather ones, since there are plenty of others available now. And, please cover your tattoos.

Great tips! Thanks

I think you are bringing important points, Diana. I would add that it also depends on the field you are in. A lawyer boss would dress differently than someone in the arts, for example; in some areas, creativity and personality are important.

Dealing with this now. Thank you.

Excellent video. I used this technique for many years before retiring. A wonderful reminder ! Thank you!❤️🌸

I long dagger nails or brightly colored nails.

That's not an A line skirt. It's a dirndl skirt. But, I get your point, much too soft and fluffy, and colorful.

It really depends on the environment of the situation you find yourself in. I thought a little formality was in order so I wore a basic black sheath dress with a black blazer and I was asked " what are you so dressed up for?" It was a job interview. Go figure.