Low Grade Narcissists | 5 Things You Need To Know

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IMO if you are dealing with a low-grade narcissist, if they don't fly into a rage there will be passive aggressive vindictive behavior. GUARANTEED!

These narcissists aren’t going to like it when they’re called “low grade”

Please don't fall into the trap of staying around for, and supporting, someone with high grade narcissism because you can see their wounds and vulnerabilities and feel sorry for them. A high grade one will recognise your good nature and your pity and exploit it - they will exact revenge on you and you won't see it coming as they are highly skilled in gaslighting and manipulation. Slowly, calmly and carefully walk away. Don't ruffle their feathers and don't challenge them. Recognise that you will feel guilt and pain for 'abandoning' that person. That's OK, that makes you a caring, empathetic person. Keep yourself and your loved ones safe.

I'm impressed that he actually points out the roots of narcissism. Most psychologists only focus on how to recognize and defend yourself.

Truly appreciate this video. I’ve been married to a man on the spectrum for 32 years. It’s been so hurtful. For so long, his behavior was an enigma because it was illogical. Now I understand and it is sad. He always seemed to live inside his own bubble. He would not, could not let me in. As a consequence, I’ve lived my entire adult life being married yet alone and unloved. I hope that these videos will help people to identify people who are unable to return their love and regretfully, walk away in the hope of finding someone with whom they may be seen for their own unique beauty and conversely, value and experience the same in another as they travel through the suffering and joy afforded in this life. What a treasure that would be… alas , it is too late for me. But I will finish the race with dignity and compassion, for myself and those around me, with the love of God.

I think the breaking point for me was how the took the criticism, I was always really passive and careful when I pointed out his behavior but it always ended with me being the problem...

I’m the scapegoat child in a viper pit of narcs and monkeys. Until I learned about NPD, I practically begged them to tell me what I was doing wrong, what things I could change about myself. But they either made stuff up or said “you’re fine” but talked about me behind my back.

I was raised in that black and white, I'm either perfect or evil, childhood environment. I'm glad I'm able to work through my narcissism, fear, and guilt, because I have a baby daughter and I want the abuse to stop with me.

These people are everywhere, like dawn of dead

Experience with a low grade narc: the person was open to take feedback and did try a bit to implement it (that is why i thought they could actually change), but the change didn't stay and every time old patterns of behaviour came back. No hope.

Great content. Just a note, I made the decision to divorce based on hundreds of hours of combing through YouTube videos to help make sense of what on earth I was dealing with. And that decision was the best, healthiest and most adult decision I have ever made. Thanks to you YouTube because traditional therapy just wasn't helping and I couldn't afford it anyway. I know you're just putting out a disclaimer to avoid complications but I'm just putting it out there that it's possible to watch YouTube and be adult about it 😂

I think it's interesting learning about this stuff. Personally I see a lot of narcissistic traits in a lot of people including myself sometimes. Or at least some of the manipulation even when it's not intended. I am definitely not a narcissist but I try and recognize behaviors that I don't want to be participating in

You’re describing my mother. She lived in terror of having that shell breached. I spent my whole life trying to make her feel safe. All I did was allow her to stay in her delusion. She was put in an orphanage when she was 2 so her mother could go work for the federal government. Then she went to a boardinghouse. Her father was a stranger walking up the other side of the street. It was all dumped on me to “fix”. She had a deep sense of shame.

I started to suffer this much through my last relationship with a narcissistic person. I’m in almost year 2 of the detachment process, almost 5 months of no contact and almost 100% no contact. I feel now like there is a kind of contagious element with narcissism. Imagine, not being seen or heard for so long by your narcissistic partner, it creates a louder and overcompensatory environment for the non-narc partner, who becomes more self serving and manipulative just trying to cling to whatever value he/she unwittingly gave away to the abuse over the years. It’s basically hell. What saved me is that I was not the root cause Narc, my root nature called me back to into authenticity and I’m grateful for the exit.

I've been to therapy for 10 months due to childhood trauma and and cptsd. I definitely live in this "bubble". I can't maintain relationships, obsession with success, and I struggle with empathy. It's all based out of fear. I definitely believe I'm not a full blown narcissist but im on the spectrum. I just wanna feel normal and like I'm not in a bubble all the time. I wanna have healthy relationships and not be scared that I'll end up neglecting or using the people I love, or supposed to love.

This fellow is right about people who are broken and selfishly defensive. The thing is, they'll hurt you the same as the intentional ones, maybe worse. Because they can make you genuinely feel wanted, while they are constantly unconsciously conspiring to another end. It's like being in a relationship with two different women. Make no mistake in how even this can destroy your life.

I would consider myself a recovering narcissist. As soon as you are willing to face the truth, you can get better. Thank you for your worthful work.

I have been wondering what the difference is between a full blown narcissist and a person who can’t let you in, has narcissistic behaviors, but there’s “truth” sometimes. I know there’s no way to heal him, but I send him high vibes and love because it’s so sad to see a good person who was so hurt to lead him to live this way.

I have been saying for years that narcissism occurs across a spectrum. Thank you for this! I appreciate all of your work. 😊