Low-grade narcissism

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It doesn't matter how low the grade is, it still drains your soul. The energy you put into it, goes into a hole that helps neither you or the narcissist. Life is too short for that.

Based on the experience of my children, I would strongly advise not having children with a narcissist of any level if you can avoid it. At best, my kids were grieved and disappointed in the maturity level of their dad. Also, I think the narcissist can grow more toxic as time goes on. And you don't want to unintentionally raise a narcissist yourself. A narcissist as a co-parent will always work against the healthy emotional development of your child.

Low-grade narcissism = slow burn / high-grade narcissism = fast burn. Your soul will turn into ashes faster than naturally.

As I age (56), my tolerance level for even the low-grade narcissists continues to diminish. The few LGNs still in my life are kept at arm's length. It was cute and annoying 20 years ago, but as these folks cross into middle age and still act like they are in high school, it becomes increasingly bothersome. Distance, for me, remains the key.

I had female “friends” like this but I noticed once I started talking about my future and what I want to do in order to be successful, they become harden and begin to put down my pursuit of dreams and happiness. They suddenly weren’t very supportive of me, and they never actually had intentions of putting their own dreams into fruition.

Yes, yes, yes, and yes. I cried through this whole video. I FINALLY feel heard. Thank you, forever.

Can you please make more videos about low grade narcissism? I feel many people fall into this category while 99% of the content out there is about the mid range or full blown narcissists which is rare and so people can't fully relate when consuming that content. Thank you

Ah, sounds like one of those "high maintenance" friends who can be great fun, and quite creative, but not someone you can, or would want to, call on when there's a tough job that needs doing.

This describes the narcissist in my life, but only in public. Only those closest to him have the pleasure of experiencing his malignant side.

Coping in a relationship with a low grade narcissist: “ If at first you don’t succeed, lower your expectations.”😂

My dad is a malignant narcissist, so he often overshadowed my mom's low-grade narcissism. She was the safe, "fun" parent, so I didn't realize how ineffectual she was as a parent until my 20s. Once I aged out of my teenage mindset, I was able to see that she never did so. She was a glorified older sister that never cared about my needs unless it made her look good. I still struggle with feelings of guilt for not loving her, but your videos always help. Thank you Dr. Ramani!

I have a 62-year-old neighbor with whom I’ve become friends. She was fun at first. But then I started picking up on little digs and criticisms that she’d slide my way. She left me feeling not so great after our visits. Sometimes she’d pay me huge accomplishments, which I found odd, because she really doesn’t know me well—nor does she want to. It all seems low-grade to me. I knew that she was somewhere on the narcissistic spectrum. Dr. Ramani just helped me better understand the degree of my neighbor’s toxicity.

What was described here is what we used to call "immaturity" or "childish."

there was no social media when I was a child, but my narcissistic parent still found ways to "display" me as an accessory. she would dress me up as if I was her living doll and gave me a pageboy haircut that I hated but she loved. And she lived for the compliments she got on how cute I was. As soon as I was old enough to speak up for myself, you can bet I made sure she knew how much I hated that and did everything I could to get her to see what my own preferences really were.

I’d love more videos about low-grade narcissism. There are so many videos about the rest of the spectrum, but this is the only one I’ve managed to find about low-grade and it describes my ex so, so well.

"Low-grade narcissistic baby people..." I love this Dr Ramani 😂

With one of my low-grade narcissists, it wasn't so much the parent-child relationship, it was more every time I would get into a conversation with the person it was more a therapy/client conversation. It was always me reassuring him, and him spilling out of "My life is so unfair."

Thank you (again). I've been trying to explain why I don't like a certain person, this describes them perfectly. An immature princess who is greedy and selfish unless she gets her way (usually achieved by pouting).

You explain this so well. Thank you! My mother was way up the scale into the malignant section, but I have had low-grade narc friends over the years. The low-grade narcs could be fun and their antics could be dismissed in my youth, as you said, but I find I have little patience for low-grade narcs now as a middle-aged adult.