3 signs you're not a narcissist

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I feel my empathy has gotten me taken advantage of, so I’ve intentionally become cold and detached to avoid being targeted.

Are you a narcissist? Consider... 1. Your Capacity for Empathy. 2. Motive of Manipulation. 3. The Need for Admiration and Validation. End. (Very Good Video)

I'm glad you spoke about people with empathy who have to LEARN how to be cold and detached. I had to teach myself to say "I don't give a damn", to keep from being manipulated.

the narcissist can have cognitive empathy, not emotional empathy. a narcissist can mimic empathy if it benefits them, and gives them control, and/or narcissistic supply. example: a narcissist is out driving, and they see a car that's been in an accident. they may help out, and call the emergency number in order to receive praise, and admiration for their heroic act. but under the facade, they could not give a damn about the person, or the car. only about their own narcissistic gain. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

Narc has the ability to make a sane insane.

I didn't realize how badly I needed to come across a video on this topic. Thank you.

I grew up thinking, and at times told people, that it was my purpose to keep my narcissistic parents happy. The script in my mind was that my worth was only as good as my ability to keep the peace between two grown adults and my golden child sister

I know I am not a narcissist. I am constantly reminded.

I just get so sick of being the only one who feels guilt after a confrontation, or that I'm the only one who deserves punishment. Sometimes I just want to make them hurt the way they hurt me, but then if i do i go immediately back to guilt for treating them like they treat me.

Thank you for this , this is sooo beautiful . And yes those are beautiful words " I need the space to process this" . I realized I was becoming toxic and don't want to be, I was groomed by Narcs most of my life and then was soo naeve to get into a 26 year relationship with one ,and have never understood myself or built boundaries and I am now 45 . I love this.

These practical advice tips are really helpful, especially for those of us who can't leave/end these narcissistic relationships just yet. Thanks!

This is helpful. I have never watched one of these videos on narcissism and felt the PAIN of the presenter as much as this. This video is very good for addressing the constant questioning of myself being a narcissistic monster. Using the word “desperation” really helped confirm what I go through in seeking the approval of others 😭 It can be so confusing. Thank you for making this video ❤❤❤

Im deeply empathetic, i always attracted and wanted to help broken or less fortunate people, i always felt like i was the one person in their world (lucky them) strong enough to do it. It’s only when they’d taken so much that i was close to going down the hole myself, with nothing left in the tank to get myself back out, did i end it. My empathy is unconditional and immediate when it is ‘needed’, but not so much when it is simply wanted, expected or demanded (entitled to it). With recent ex-wife it was a ‘break glass in emergency’ button that was being pressed at her whim, to ensure her needs are my top priority at any given time. When you have mortgage, job and other foundational life responsibilities and problems to deal with, you have no choice but to filter and triage your empathetic emotions to prioritise subsequent response. It’s a way of protecting yourself, these people will keep taking more and slowly boil you alive, life is short, you need to be aware of your breaking point and exit before the damage you’ve allowed them to inflict becomes unfixable with the time you have left.

Here's a quick test to differentiate yourself from a narcissist: would you be willing to anonymously help someone in need? A few winters ago, we had a bad blizzard. My narc partner and I were home at the time, and spent quite awhile clearing our driveway of over a foot of snow with high drifts. My next-door neighbor was away on a trip, and, since I didn't want him returning home to a snowed-up/blocked driveway, I suggested to my partner that we shovel him out... He begrudgingly agreed to it, but was APPALLED that I didn't let my neighbor know who had done it... he wanted the recognition, you see... he was upset with me for weeks about keeping it a secret. I just felt good about being helpful - but understanding that was beyond his capability.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I’m getting a much better understanding of my husband (the narcissist) and myself, than I could have ever hoped for from just reading books. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this type of manipulation when you were a kid but it also made you who you are today and for that I am grateful.

Thank you. I needed to be reminded of all of this.

For me, after seeing all of the textbook definitions of what Narcissism is and how they conduct themselves. I am very confident I'm not a Narcissist. I've just been fighting an uphill battle trying to get others to see that as well

Shutting down to protect your boundaries is so true and loving yourself in a healthy manner! I prefer being alone as I cannot trust like I used to! Being used and abused to help others and wanting peace for them and me! But many didn’t want peace! They need help but project their hangups onto you! No more enabling and then they slander you!

Y'know, being around that type of personality pretty much since childhood were the strong concerns of me even being a narcissist myself. The strength of such an influence or personality at hand and you're against that for so many damn years. By far was this a need Meadow, so much thanks there.