Why the narcissist gets angry when you don't chase them

“Some people are mad at you because they made the mistake of underestimating you. They threw you under the bus, and you survived.” — Steve Maraboli

In fact this is the ABSOLUTE BEST response to a Narcissistic discard. Just walk away. Don't fight for their validation/attention, don't expect an explanation, don't ask them questions.

Underestimating me has a lifetime of consequences.

Their lack of insight is infuriating, you just can't win with these people

I was discarded a month ago. The first few weeks I was broken hearted. But it dawned on me in recent days that I’m so happy and calm and like myself again. He made me walk on egg shells and looked for a fight every day. He ended up discarding me and it made me feel rejected. But now that I think about it, not only was I way out of his league (he snagged me with that perfect lovebombing) but I didn’t even really like being around him. He was always in such a terrible mood, always mad at someone, always on edge and never gave a sh!t how anyone else felt. Why did I ever let this loser into my life?!! Life is good again finally!!!

I discarded him and ignore him like he never existed. He has tried to get my attention and it just doesn't work. Good riddance 😊

Narcs are so tiresome.🤮

Because deep down they know they're not worth chasing. You not chasing a narcissist is a big failure to them. But instead of admitting it's them they project their own self-hatred on you. Because they couldn't destroy you. They're unhealed children. I want a real woman. Not an emotionally damaged child. 😂 Don't ever chase them again. And do NOT fall for their hoovering. Its all a mind game to them.

They don’t have any remorse and no reconciliation skills.

I accepted the discard and walked away. He said he wanted to still be a business partner and friend. I said no. Byeeeeeeee.

Perpetual "gaming mode" is what stood out to me. Spot on. "What they really need is to watch somebody suffering in order to feel good."

This is exactly what happened in my most recent relationship. My ex initiated discard but it was actually a hoover and she asked me why I didn't fight for the relationship. I gave no response accepted the discard and walked away. I never chased her went no contact and have never spoken to her again.

Why would I chase a narc after being discarded? Nuts. No contact forever!

mine discarded me. i waited 2 weeks and reached through text. my ex narc got mad i waited two weeks to reach out. i was so confused since she was already seeing someone else. after that i never reached out. i been no contact for over a year. Idc what there doing anymore. i deleted all social media for over a year and just focused on me. she has showed up someplace she knew i would be a year after the discard. she looked uncomfortable to see me and refused to look my way. i didn’t care. i wasn’t uncomfortable at all since i had healed. i went about my business. they never showed up again. then she spoke to my friend at the gym. she knew it would get back to me. i didn’t even care. sounds like she wants to be so relevant in my life but i’m sorry hunny after you discarded me and played victim and did a smear campaign lying on me i was done.

My narc ex tried getting me to chase after him repeatedly in our on off so called ‘relationship’. I never did. After a while, no doubt when his relationships he ghosted me for didn’t satisfy him, he would come back, future faking and love bombing to within an inch of his life. I fell for it like an idiot, but after a while l grew tired of him and began to relish him being out of my life. Now the love is completely gone and l’ve closed all roads to him coming back. That’s the difference from before. Once the feelings are replaced by total cold indifference, their hold over you is finished and you don’t care whether their delusional minds gets it or not. You’re just not interested in playing in their mind games and leave them on the outskirts of your presence, playing with themselves until they finally grow bored at not having an audience, admits defeat and moves on to be somebody else’s problem.

Misery loves company.

I remember this ex toxic person I was dating would tell me "you give up too easily". Ya, when you treat me and my boundries after I tell you them like garbage, yes I give up and dont try for someone who obviously doesnt care about me.

💫 I made a mistake and chased behind an ex narc and boy oh boy that lunatic treated me like I was crap on the bottom of his shoes. That was a lesson well learned for me. Don't NEVER be the FOOL for a narc nor feed their fragile ego. But when the tables turn and you no longer care and set strong boundaries and get over the narc for good and move on with your life and happy and healthy and content and free of all the toxic bullcrap and drama and have your own life and thriving and strong and healthy and happy and healed, narc can't take it!!😁.They can't take that they didn't completely destroy you and your happiness and being healthy and healed and smiling. Narcs hate it. And the ex narc still tries to hoover and thinks I still belong to him. Chile please. I don't pay that 🤡 no mind. And he hates it. Oh well. My don't care energy has long kicked in years ago.😁💃🏽 Nola9Ward ⚜️💃🏽

Why do narcs say "You don't even fight for me"? Why should you fight for your partner while in a relationship.... Glad I've walked away twice from different woman... Ex wife divorced 2020... Then 3yrs later 2023 a girlfriend.

May 27th of this year, it was a month and time I'll never forget.. I was discarded by a woman, I loved more than anything in this world.. She breaks up with me, then 3 days after the discard.. Invites me to her house.. She's crying saying she doesn't know what she wants etc.. She is telling me how much she loves but still doesn't know what she wants... Then a couple of days later.. I'm unfriended on facebook, the I tried calling her phone.. And noticed my number.. Was blocked.. It's been so difficult and heartbreaking for me.. Then watching these videos.. Makes me realize what I was dealing with.. I've been feeling so defeated, especially not getting any closure