3 Surprising Hacks for Relational Success w/ Dr. John Delony | The Lila Rose Podcast E117

Being weird has definitely helped me in social settings. I'm an outgoing senior in high school. I was just at this scholarship event where they had this dinner for the recipients. The recipients all went to smaller tables of maybe eight people in the dining room. When I signed in, they told me which table to go to, and so I went around to each fellow recipient at the table, introduced myself, shook his or her hand, and then went and took my seat and started talking with them. After some lively discussion, the one of the girls there looked at me and said "You know, I'm glad you came to this table, because before you arrived, we were all just sitting here for fifteen minutes in awkward silence." That really took me aback for a second, but I guess that's just how most of my fellow Gen Zers operate. All I can say is, be that guy. Be the guy who breaks the awkward silence. Be the guy who says hi to the nerd who's off by himself in the corner. Be the guy that asks the girl out. Worse case scenario, you don't hit it off with whoever you're interacting with. And even that's better than not trying. And by the way, I'm not saying be an extrovert. Technically speaking, I am an introvert, as I am most relaxed when I am alone. But even an introvert can have fun getting to know people. You can't live life completely by yourself.

Lovely convo. Also, dating apps suck generally. It turns finding a partner into a game, and people feel like they have endless options, so if they invest in someone, they feel they are missing out. It'd basically hitting the lottery to meet someone who aligns with you on what matters. Plus, married and committed people are on there looking to cheat. "Go out and be weird" is much better advice.

I enjoy this talk show Lila, where is all my Millennial generation era at??? From 1982-1995. I was born in 1989 and made it to be 35.

I think when they said that “we are way too picky about things that don’t matter” and “not picky enough about things that do matter” really nails it. Including in my own dating life, but even in my broader social circles, people are choosing partners based solely on the most superficial characteristics and just wave away fundamental values because, “I wish they were more into the same type of music as me,” or “I only date people who dress this way,” or “we need to have the same hobbies” or frankly unrealistic levels of physical attraction on the part of most men and women. It’s such a terrible basis to choose a partner.

Oh my goodness. Imagine having high school and college being the highlight of your life... that sounds like hell on earth. 😄

I’m so glad you had Dr. Delony back on!!! He’s the BEST!!! ❤

We love our neighbor, she is 83 y.o. and we take care of each other. I love talking to her. We always give her something tasty I cooked from scratch or fresh produce from our gardens, eggs, flowers, plants, etc and she does the same. My husband helps fix her plumbing. I love the connection we have. Real life communication and giving, helping people is important for a happy life. We were lied that you have to do everything for yourself, put yourself on a pedestal and ignore other "toxic" people to be happy. It's a lie. We need meaningful connections.

Since you said you read your comments, I want to let you know that I had a holy moment in heavy part thanks to this episode and of course the conducting of the Holy Spirit. I have slowly gotten better at keeping flowers alive (outside lol), and the other day a church friend complimented that as a gift. Unrelatedly, we went on vacation recently so I asked a neighbor to keep an eye on our house and get our mail. I hadn't given her anything as a thank you, but this episode inspired me to grab one of my too many mugs, fill it with a nice little bouquet of homegrown flowers, and went over to thank her with it. She loved it, and asked if i could do a favor for her when she goes on vacation here soon. A holy moment, free of price! This community building principle will live on in my heart. I miss the days of the 90s when my mom would take a pie to each new neighbor moving into our neighborhood. But we get to take part in owning our stories now and making the community around us better. Thank you both for your work and for the talk, and glory to Jesus for showing us the best Way! 🙌

Yay! So glad you had him back on! Can’t wait to watch ! Lila you are killing it with the best guests

I love my 8 week old but honestly it does suck. It’s not easy. I feel like it’s gonna take me a while to get myself back so let’s just be honest here please .. it’s also tough when you’re constantly sleep deprived and no one helps

You have great guests! Thanks for this channel and everything you do! I love to share a lot of these episodes with family and friends. They are always so life giving. Thank you!

oh my gosh! I just have to comment on the expectation that moms be negative about their position: I just had my second and he’s an absolute dream (my first was a bit harder in terms of sleeping and eating) so when people ask me how I’m doing I say “amazing!” And everyone , without fail, follows up with “really?? are you sure?” In some way or another. It’s so grating!

Besides that, what I find more difficult is to make friends with the same values and beliefs. Sometimes it is like yeah I like this person but them they believe in things that I don't like abortion, or their atheist, things like that

Ps. I am an Orthodox Christian and I love your pro-life movement

Great podcast. I listen to John all the time

I have followed Dr John for a while now and YouTube suggested this video, lovely to meet you and Im looking forward to watching more of your content.

Thank you Lila and Dr.D for all of your work and thank you for reminding me that I need to put more effort into building relationships within my community. ❤️ Loving solitude and having people to build real connection with are not mutually exclusive. I tend to forget that.

I wish I had the friends he spoke so dearly of- I am so envious. I will take your advice.

Great episode! Still hoping you two will have a conversation aboit counseling women using some of John's calls about abortion as a starting point

I have 5 kids, plus 2 in Heaven, and a lot of people in my country look at as if we are a pathology, including my own family member... But with homeschooling, and they all being at home, my life being so noisy, full of conflict and stress, I'd never opt out or choose differently or sth. I AM grateful to God, that He gave me so many treasures even though I am far from a perfect mother. My patience is tested constantly and I fail daily - but still - what a tremendous blessing. Marriage too can be real hard, but I'd rather carry that cross and look at the bright side as often as I can than wish to be more "free" and lonely.