The Joys of Not Needing People

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Published 2023-06-15
The experience of loneliness is prevalent in individualistic societies. We can’t deny that loneliness is problematic. However, without reducing the severity of this issue, we might also have been underestimating the advantages of ‘not needing people.’

Video: The Joys of Not Needing People

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00:00 - Intro
02:49 - Independence & freedom
06:02 - Less drama, more tranquility
09:41 - Authenticity & personal fulf

All Comments (21)
  • I find that every time I'm feeling lonely, I try to connect with people again, and every time, they remind me of why I was alone to begin with.
  • @pepefroglive
    Negative perspective: Being alone is called Loneliness. Positive perspective: Being alone is called Freedom.
  • @dialmstyle
    Loneliness may be problematic, but toxicity from others is worse!
  • @snoozebhawsar
    I hate when people link loneliness with not trusting or loving other people. I, personally, love interacting with people, but also love being alone. I like to listen to other people's perspective but also love how I keep myself happy when I'm all by myself. It's not a black and white thing. You can interact with people and be happy alone.
  • @tomjones8293
    Loneliness is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t wanna deal with people. All of our unhappiness comes from our inability to be alone. If you love yourself, you will enjoy your own company. You can not be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude. Hell is other people.
  • @rnt45t1
    I'll be 35 years old this year. I'm a single male, I live alone. I don't do anything with any other person, ever. I work from home. I go to the store, but people most of the time just ignore me. I wake up, I work out, I work, I go do something outdoors, I eat, and I go to bed to do it again the next day. I have no one in my life. It only bothers me when I allow myself to start thinking about what other people have that I don't. Only when I compare myself to others do I feel like a loser. I'm not, by the way. I'm in shape, out of debt, own my house outright, multiple vehicles, enjoy good food, in the best health and shape of my life. I just do it all alone.
  • @FoolishlyAlive
    The art of being alone is central to love. Because when we learn to be alone artfully, we no longer use other people as an escape.
  • @rainbowterra
    I used to think that I was antisocial or mentally/emotionally unwell because I love being alone so much. I'm single, no kids, I live alone, i work a job that requires very little interaction, and honestly I could live the rest of my life like this. It's so unbelievably peaceful and happy. I don't think a lifestyle of solitude is necessarily unhealthy, although it can be for some, for others it might be exactly what they need.
  • @ReynaSingh
    “In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.”
  • @nanetten6238
    I've been waiting a long time to hear someone talk about the benefits of solitude, not the "dangers" of loneliness. Thank you.
  • @trishawalsh7832
    I've grown more and more introverted as the time has passed. When I was younger, I cared about what people thought of me, until it dawned on me that I didn't even like them! A great lesson to learn when I was still in school. So I decided to hang around the people I DID like. Let me introduce you three best friends; Me, Myself and I!
  • @AB5997
    "True love is being a protector of each other's solitude" - Rainer Maria Rilke
  • @OnderHassan
    When you can learn to enjoy being alone. No one can control you, manipulate you or threaten to leave you and ironically end up with loyal and strong friendships and relationships.
  • @slynn360
    I have never felt as lonely as i have felt in a crowd of people i cannot be myself with. I never feel lonely when i'm alone and love my own company
  • @pilgrim985
    I live alone and value my solitude as priceless. When I’m alone I don’t realize that I’m alone but when I’m with others, they get on my nerves and annoy me. It’s like a chore having to be around people.
  • @fitlife1205
    It’s a blessing to be the introverted type… people can be chaotic
  • Many are afraid to be alone, even when it is the antidote to their suffering. When alone, with no music, social media, or other distractions, we are forced to confront who we truly are. It is at those times when you can see your true self in all its glory, imperfection and self-awareness. The strongest people are not afraid of solitude.
  • @explorer.samrat
    I am happiest and at my best when alone. It's so liberating and peaceful. People who fear solitude, should understand that within your body you are always alone...no one can be with you always...so become your own best friend first, before you become friends with others. 😊😊
  • Everytime i try to reconnect with people when im lonely i always get reminded to be alone again. People are draining sometimes and i have more peace of mind in soltitude.
  • @menahealing
    I was a loner since childhood. I enjoyed playing alone and never needed other kids to have fun or be happy. I played with them but only for short time and I enjoyed my time with myself. I am 32yo and I am still the same. A lot of people don't understand me, say I'm selfish and not caring, it hurts, because I truly love people, I just don't need them to feel happy.