How to Spot Bullying On Your Team - Know the Signs of a Bully at Work

The bully is often incredibly gregarious with forming a positive social connection and charm of the manager as well.

let's be honest - no manager cares whether someone is bullied in their department.

As a person who’s been a victim of bullying throughout my entire life, I can relate to this video in regards to the usual bullying traits and psychological damage it can have on a person long term. I've even contemplated suicide to free myself from the onslaught. From my experience, the most frequent forms of bulling are being the target of unwanted humour (butt of jokes), patronizing/condescending behaviours, over explaining things you already know in front of others, double standards, micromanagement and knit picking, which are designed to make you feel intellectually inferior or incompetent. If you complain about it, people will say you're over-reacting or you can't take a joke. I think most people have the sense to know if someone is genuine and if you’re not good at your job. Just like self-defence classes used in martial arts, there should be mental self-defence to combat against this negative abuse. Bullies usually target people they perceive to be weak. HR and management aren't very supportive, so you're basically on your own. I've learnt to stand up for myself in a calm and concise manner by playing them at their own game, making sure people are accountable for their actions (responding to their remarks openly) and explaining to colleagues/managers I don't feel comfortable with their behaviour. Consequently, I’ve become very strategic. Keeping a record/logbook is very important with what was said, times and dates. I'm on the spectrum, and most organizations see it as a sign of weakness because we’re easier to prey upon and don’t fit in socially.

Most bullies are bosses

Good list and I've experienced things from all the lists presented. Bullies are deceptive sociopaths, they usually feel nothing for others and can be very narcissistic, willing to cause others to lose their jobs to help theirs or make them look good. They dont care if you end up on the street or how much your family suffers due to their behaviour, all they care about is themselves. If I am ever a manager and I so much as hear a squeak of a bully, I will take every disciplinary action available and applicable to the situation. I'll ensure that person thinks twice before trying to bully again.

Changing behaviour could entice, reward, the bullies. I 'defend' by sticking to work and keep outperforming. Once I detected bullying from inferior co-workers, it became ridiculous to let them be the arbiters of moral standard or just about anything. Learning about the dark traits of personalities and toxic work environments, and applying stoic principles, have been helpful.

A experienced manager that is actually interested in making the workplace a great workplace would know how to go forward, however there is a lot of managers that are seriously incompetent close minded and completely not interested in any of team building concerns they believe they are smarter than the teams and do not consult anyone on the team. Such managers usually destroy great organizations.

Recently Left Corporate America due to my last three employers being Robber Barons. I keep getting offers for employment, but I'm far from ready to take any of them. This last place was so awful that I don't want to go back into an office ever again. Literally, I felt helpless, and HR is never for the employee. Moral injuries are the worst injuries.... most of my coworkers were abused, too.

Having experienced this so often in different workplaces I think the U.K. workplace has now become so toxic it’s like being back in the 1970’s again when employment laws were nearly non-existent.

Withholding information is SUCH a big thing. I was victim of this often. Thank you for bringing this up Oh also a new thing: it depends on the work surroundings but I've once worked on a canadian farm with 2 mean french girls from france and belgium who were new there, too. The girl who told us the instructions was french, too (I can't speak french) and she explained everything in french so that I got excluded and made mistakes. They also gossiped right next to me in their language and even tho I didn't understand every word, I knew they talked about me. I had to ask them about every task so they made me dependent on them. The constellation 2 against 1 played a role, too. I feel like this would have never happened if it was only one girl and me. But anyways. I'm back in Germany now, thriving in a field they thought I wasn't capable of doing ;)

It used to be called slightly bullying behind closed doors. Or in the back office in the company with the bullying within the business. Also, if the manager or management team will also assist within the bullying process of the business. Course some time it's the whole damm management team.

I’m a manager and I feel like I’m being bullied, I’m being so badly micromanaged my manager has been examining my spelling in emails to the point she has called me out for poor spelling because I missed the “d” off acknowledged. She’s also made me physically read out my emails to her so she can find a fault, to the point one time she told me have I proof read my email? I said yes what’s wrong with it? She said ok read it to me, so I started.. nothing told me to read the next paragraph again nothing. Eventually she said oh must just be me must have been another email.. I feel so degraded I have dyslexia and she knows this, my spelling will never be perfect even with tools to help. I stood up for myself today and said she’s done spelling mistakes so have my colleague and so have many others across the department but they never get highlighted so why are mine. She couldn’t say just put me on a support plan that I’ve refused to sign.

I am the sole target of the workplace bully. Any time I bring it up to my manager. He tries to turn it on me being the problem and makes excuses for her. She is a friend of his that he brought into the organization. Currently looking because I can't take it anymore

Thank you. I needed to see these facts and patterns objectively to understand my situation. You helped me see the truth in all the manipulation, that my own spider sense was tingling about. Namaste! I can now act, and be confident.

Thank you, very helpful

This is amazing. Thank you so much for this.

I appreciate you making this video. This kind of behavior from people that bully is NOT right and they would face Jesus to explain how they treated HIS children!

As to physical threats. I was the target of an incident where a boss threw a pen at my face. He justified himself by saying that “… the pen flew off his hand…”

Very helpful but what if the manager is the bully?

Thank you! Very useful information. I am a new employee who has experienced bullying behaviour by my manager. I feel isolated and that my account has not been validated. I am considering tendering my resignation