What does BREAD CRUMBING have to do with TRAUMA BONDING?

I think one of the cruelest things is when a parent breadcrumbs a child, desperate for the love of that parent.

I heard great advice: Don't let the history keep you in misery. Sometimes, things are over.

Bread crumbing can be really harmful when hope comes to play

I always took pride in needing so little. OMG I'm almost 70!

'It's easier to blame yourself...until it isn't. ' It's like waking up and seeing something for the first time despite the fact that it's been the reality for a long, long time. Thank you Dr Ramani.

One of my greatest breakthrough in my healing, was realizing that I had a history of accepting crumbs in my friendships and putting in too much effort to keeping the relationship going.

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..

Totally learning I deserve more, and don’t have to chase, please, appease, or earn love. I don’t accept breadcrumbs anymore. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

So glad you addressed this insidious, cowardly technique. No one deserves this starvation diet. I had a narcissist slither back into my life a few years ago. I was able to see the whole process for what it was. To me breadcrumbing is one of the most insulting, disrespectful things you can do to someone. To me it is a sign it is "Time to go." And I did. No explanation to the narcissist, no goodbye. I blocked everything. Not my problem. So different from the way I used to be. Took me a long time to get here. So grateful you are teaching this now so other people can be saved.

Dr. R's last comment ... " Until it isnt. " And you quit trying, accept that they will Never, Ever change.. Move on. And detach. And its the best I've felt in ten years. !! 😊😊😊

After years of feeling, I was never enough & settling for breadcrumbs. His worst behaviour, which was often violent, became my final exit out of that toxic entanglement . Inflicting Breadcrumbing in any relationship is such a cruel behaviour

"The relationship is rationalized on ... the absence of abuse." Ouch. My life for so many years....

There’s a guy at my CHURCH who doesn’t even be in relationships with these women, but he breadcrumbs them in friendships where they hope, even for years, that he will finally choose them as a girlfriend and ultimately a wife. It’s so sad and I’m so glad I got out of it before I got stuck in this disgusting cycle.

4:06 "The bar moves so low that you basically have to tunnel to get under it." I'm going to write that one down and reflect on it.

When you settle for bread crumbs, you'll always be starving.

0:03 before we start Bread-crumbing is Future-Faking via partial positive reinforcement (backed up by negative punishment). It's the "near win" of a gambling machine designed to keep you hooked. Social acceptance is the pay-off

I found myself accepting friendships for me, that were no better than my Narc, until i realised how i felt when i got rid of everyone who were no good for me, whuch was a hell of a lot better. 🍒

Bread crumbing is probably one of the most cruel manipulation strategies because it "cooks" you slowly and steadily. The more compromises you make the further you get from your true self. And that shows how vital is for everyone to be able to set healthy boundaries and, if needed, go no contact with people who gradually degrade and devaluate you.

I don’t even want to say how horrible and so few bread crumbs that can be given without any shame it’s crazy they don’t see it or care

"It's always easier to blame ourselves. Till it isn't". Wise words that could apply in a number of circumstances.