Esther Perel on The Signs of a Doomed Relationship | JHS Ep. 911

I believe that this wonderful, beautiful, intelligent lady, is one of the most interesting people I’ve ever listened to.

45:45 addresses the issue of when to end the relationship

She takes an Anthropology approach to intimate relationships. She knows 9 languages & very European in cultural style. Americans need more therapists like her!!

Bored silly with 99% of the self help gurus/their repetitive pablum, Ms. Perel is so refreshing and wise; her guidance is practical and inspiring, her depth of knowledge is platinum & highest grade diamonds, in its rarity & priceless value.💖

I love her advice. We do tend to not notice our own changes and then expect our significant other to remain the same.

Thank you Esther, in one podcast, you’ve pinpointed and helped me see the reasons behind my marital fights. Esther = all fights are for power & control, respect & validation, and care & kindness.

I love what she says about lying horizontal during an argument and humour! Humour is such an important salve in a relationship. The person who brings that brings a gift! Also not about arguing better but relating better.

Esther's closing comment is the introduction of a whole new conversation that I would love to listen to and engage in! "We talk about loneliness. We talk about suicide. We talk about breakdowns of institutions. We talk about how the burden of self has never been heavier. But when we talk about it like that it feels very abstract. When you look at the life of actual people, (especially younger people, as I do), it warrants attention."

Esther is the Contessa of compassion and kindness. I would give anything to have her giving advice to senior couples. Specially when they start at 62-65

No mention of compulsive porn obsession that is ruining so many relationships. When is society going to start talking about this? It’s the elephant in the room and everyone is too brainwashed or ashamed to bring it up.

I love this lady!!! She is the most intelligent, insightful, “GET IT” woman. Thank you Esther!!

Thank you Esther Perel for your AMAZING insights, and incredible family background and the fact you understand and speak 7 languages?!! My mind is officially blown!🤯

I love Ester P. I have followed her and her work for 4 yrs now. I have her books, podcasts and game. She has transformed my relationships, both professionally and social.

‘The old ball and chain’ always was pure projection…. Historically it has been and oftentimes still is women who are completely tied down and expected to live a very different standard of life than men. I grew up Roman Catholic and lived it!!

The freedom piece and the security is huge. It has kept my 9 year relationship so solid and always growing. Spot on why its so important.

Esther Perel is the intelligent, knowledgeable, and interesting person to hear about personal reflection on relationships and how to look forward to better future relationships, within the current marriage.

Wonderful conversation. Thank you for this podcast. On the note of AI I will share an observation: When my sister was born my mother was in the same hospital ward as a woman who had just given birth but was under observation due to grade a drug addiction. I remember hearing her baby's cries & the nurses explained that basically the baby was crying so much as it was born with the drug addiction. It was one of the most terrifying cries I had ever heard. I had forgotten about this until a month ago when a woman came into my workplace with her 2 infants. At one point she took the phone off the hands of one of the infants and they started crying.. The same terrifying cry that baby with the addiction had.. When experts state that technology has no impact on mental health issues.. I honestly think they have their blinders on. I'm glad Esther Perel is speaking so frankly about her concerns.. While it is not helpful to get all doom and gloom about technology (it does have its pluses..such as me listening to this podcast).. Its important to acknowledge what issues are arising

It's a treasure to learn of Esther Perels childhood and circumstances of her parents. Thank you.

I can’t believe this, true love .. people are this far away from true love? If you need a side life (betrayal) you haven’t developed true love with partner. Yes, You should be fulfilling your own goals, etc, however if it involves betrayal… there’s not true love there. Just selfishness, self centeredness, immature, etc.

This woman is about as wise as anyone can be Her responses to the highest quality of questions are so substantial that it’s hard to not be in awe And in gratitude Thank you both Beautiful souls