How to Handle a Rebellious Child

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It’s absolutely insane how people don’t like this man.

I used to teach Taekwondo. I had one kid that I didn't like. He didn't listen, he was annoying, he generally didn't have a great attitude. But one day, he did a great job with everything. And I told his Dad, "He did a great job today." The next class, that kid came up to me and thanked me. It really made his day that not only did I notice, but I made sure his Dad knew, too.

Jordan Peterson is the kind of man that can truly put into words for a non-parent, how difficult being a parent is, while explaining all the blessings it comes with.

I've learned the hard way that you can't reason with kids when they get into temper tantrums. They literally cannot use any logical portion of their brain, they just need to be conditioned over time to learn to gain control. The hard part about being a parent is just like Jordan says, you have to keep your cool and you cannot hold grudges in any capacity with your child. If you've never had kids or dealt with them in a childcare capacity, that is way harder than you think it is. Prior to becoming a parent, if anyone treated you the way your kids do when they're acting badly, you would cut that person out of your life immediately and never speak to them again. So, you're in essence trying to overcome your own mental wiring to keep yourself collected in those moments and in the aftermath.

I wish I had a father like him. And I would love for him to know how much of an impact he's had on my way of thinking, parenting, communication. I love this man. He is a beautiful mind

My Dad used to always say, only half-joking, "Your reward for good behavior is no punishment." I NEVER heard the words, "I'm proud of you." Just recently, my dentist told his assistant, " Wow, it looks like we have a flosser here." I was actually only flossing a couple of times a week, but since he noticed, I've started flossing twice a day. It occurred to me that his positive reinforcement of my occasional flossing motivated me far more than all the years my previous dentists said, "You need to floss more!"

6:00 "As soon as you get compliance, specially when the compliance is in the best interest of the child, you want to reward it instantly" Thats a gold nugget right between all the stories... dont let it slip through your fingers!

Teaching children to control their anger as a tiny tot is an invaluable skill in adult years. This is a part of loving and nurturing your precious child.

What an amazing lecturer. I could listen to him for hours unlike my 7 years of university. Most profs were not engaging nor good teachers. A PhD does not necessarily make a great educator.

As a parent of a child similar to how he described his son, this was refreshing and just listening helped reaffirm I’m not the only one going through child raising struggles.

Rebellious children are remarkably intelligent. They question authority because they see past it’s fragile guises. They behave in a way that pushes boundaries so that they can know the space in which they can operate. They express their emotions, because it’s an effective way to communicate. Be careful how you treat rebellious kids, because they are a blessing to society.

7:04 When the young man in the front right asks how to reward a child. There's three incredible things you can say that will boost their confidence and build them into a great person. 1 I love you. 2 I'm proud of you. 3 You're good at (_____)/ good job. Many people go through life never hearing those three sentences.

Jordan is so engaged its a breeze to follow him when he's speaking. You can hear how engaged the audiance is.

One thing I learned watching my cousin is never tell them they are a genius. Never be like you are a genius since you are the top of the class. Always give the credit to the work they put in and always subtly emphasize that the result they got is from the work her did. This will build in his mind that the results are under his control and not something external like genetics which he cannot control. My cousin was the genius kid he literally got amazing grades with just the content he learned from class. But as he reached college, he started finding it harder to sit down and study. Grades began to slip and his parents started with how lazy it is and how he used to be a genius but lost all of it because he spends all his time on the phone.

Your advice on raising children(from your books) really changed my life as a father of two little girls. My wife came from a great family and I continue to learn from her parents but I was raised by a single mother. Your advise really gave me clarity and direction on how to be a better father and husband. I need all the help I can get, lol. Thank you for all that you do for humanity.

DO NOT…. Absorb your child’s consequences when they’re young. They need them when they’re young. Learning those lessons when they’re older is much much more difficult. Don’t rob them of the easy method!!!

Listening to Dr Peterson has motivated me to make so many positive changes in my life.

The clips channel is a treasure!! Sometimes it's hard to watch a full 2-hour lecture, so uploading short clips is very helpful. Thank you ❤️

As the parent of a 12 year old girl, I would love to hear more discussions on the puberty and post puberty years of development. I have always enjoyed the discussions about the younger years but I haven't noticed any discussions about the hormonal stage.