Esther Perel on Workplace Dynamics | SXSW 2019

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What Business Leaders Can Learn About Workplace Dynamics from Couples Therapy

Navigating relationships and cultivating relational fluency is key- both personally and professionally. Each of us carries specific narratives which guide our needs and expectations - how we connect to others, how we define trust, and how we engage or avoid conflict. Most importantly, these inner stories determine how we communicate and elicit curiosity and collaboration.

We don't magically become different people when we walk into our office. Once considered a “soft skill” in the workplace, relational intelligence is now one of the top currencies of business success.

Famed couples therapist Esther Perel has spent more than 35 years helping people articulate their aspirations, explore boundaries between self and others, and repair trust that is broken. Now she’s applying her extensive knowledge of relationships to help us master the art of modern leadership.

This session and others are available for listening on the SXSW Sessions Podcast here: link.chtbl.com/directesther

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All Comments (21)
  • @farshid819
    Woooww! A revolutionary view of work and relationships. Relational intelligence... emotional capitalism... romantic consumerism... subtle narcissism - profound concepts that she is revealing. Her explanation of trust and the shattering of trust rocked my world.
  • @victoriap2519
    "start by changing myself" because all about how you perceive it, and the how you mind it, and so how you emote it. The way you think is the way you emote. The way you emote is the way you think, different people have different degree of importance of emotion and thinking. Nobody can upset you, as any emotion is generated within you , you see withing yourself, you hear within yourself. No matter whats happening, if it happens to you that means it is your responsibility , now you have ability to respond.
  • @360.Tapestry
    i'm hypnotized by her necklace flipping direction each time she turns her neck/body
  • @leahkmarshall
    Such an amazing conversation with Esther Perel at SxSW on our relationships at work! "All relationships rest on 3 main pillars: autonomy & interdependence, managing conflict & communication, & self-awareness & accountability. We all carry beliefs based on our childhoods about what we can expect from people. These form the lens through which we look at our relationships. What messages did you grow up with? That relationships are central and safe, or peripheral and harmful? Never before have we expected so much from our romantic partners and our work. We want our work to give us an enormous amount of flexibility so it will adapt to the particularities of our life, to be attentive to our physical and emotional well-being, and to give us a sense of purpose and meaning. In our intimate relationships, we want all of this for the long haul... and the long haul keeps getting longer." ☺️
  • @MariaANDSunday
    So accurate and with such high degree of honesty. Some principles to live by.
  • @ianpatrick23
    Such an incredible look into what happens between people at work
  • @krasteva100
    "If you want to change the others I start by changing myself" and it starts with "The only thing you can change in a person is the way you see it" Great speech Esther. I would like to know who is your mentor? :)
  • @missjenn3963
    Self Awareness and Accountability - this could change a LOT!
  • @heilapaulino7602
    Esther Perel dresses like the wise woman heroine in a Bond movie (whatever that means, I'm getting Judie Dench vibes, mostly) and it makes me very happy.
  • @RontschDaPontsch
    That smart woman always wears that one necklace. I would love to know what it means to her.
  • @JoeEPena
    I found some goodies for the kids for Christmas,:faired good with the podiatrist/cardiologist, will finish up with the PPO for this year, and follow up with the New HMO after New Years Visits!