Secrets to Healthy Relationships | Esther Perel | The Knowledge Project #71

Published 2019-12-10
World-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel teaches us the art and science of meaningful connection.

Our relationships have the power to make our lives better or worse, yet few of us have been taught the skills and behaviors that build deeper, more meaningful, connections.

We discuss specific methods to deepen your connection with your partner, the tools to "fight fair," reignite romance, and rewrite the narratives that sabotage our relationships.

Topics:
00:00 - Intro
09:18 - Coming back to life after the war
14:49 - The myth of stability
18:10 - The power of reflections
26:28 - Important conversations for early relationships
31:00 - Can values change in relationships?
34:00 - Being secure in a relationship
37:20 - Better conversations with your partner
39:40 - What's behind every criticism
43:32 - Too much honesty
46:17 - What happens if I don't love my partner
53:52 - Why does good sex fade in relationships?
57:39 - Love vs. desire
01:02:18 - How to have difficult conversations with your partner
01:11:53 - Conscious uncoupling

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All Comments (21)
  • @tkppodcast
    Whether you're facing love challenges or just want to reconnect with your partner this episode offers the skills and behaviors to repair and build deeper more meaningful connections. Share your favorite part of the convo below 👇. If you enjoyed this episode, HIT that like button on the video! It helps us a lot 🙏
  • @NitikaRawat
    Major Takeaway: "Behind every criticism is a wish!" Whoa! that blew me away.
  • @natashas.1566
    We all know that Esther is brilliant. But, can we stop for a moment and recognize how amazing this interviewer is? He asked very throughtful questions, which were both well prepared but also followed upon what Esther said right before being asked the question. He did not simply staged the questions to follow his prepared agenda. He was not affraid to be told that he had understood the issue differently than she sees it. He genuinely wanted to hear her opinion and learn from her, no matter if the answer starts with 'No, it is not that', or with 'Yes, you are right.' I think that this was my 4th or 5th time listening to this interview, and I come back to it at least twice a year. Thank you both!
  • I am 75. It's never too late to learn and grow. Looking back on family, upbringing, career, education, marriages, divorce, single parenting, raising two successful adults, living alone, surviving abuse, surviving cancer, starting over, and seeing all of the world events and changes I have lived through, Esther has covered the major issues of my entire life and given me hope for the next 25 years. I cannot go back, but I can go forward. With this information I can become the person and partner I have always thought I might be. Thank you Esther!
  • Esther you are the friend I never had but now I do. I love listening to you. Your wisdom is so profound and has helped me tremendously.
  • @BFR1974
    Great questions and great answers by a wonderful lady. Thank you.
  • @pauloperre3270
    Thank you Esther. Thank you Shane. Today i grew a litle bit more. I understand better who i am and where i am going (or should going). It is always day one.
  • @jaykaye562
    Esther is amzing, but this is honestly the best Esther interview I have listened to... great questions.. thanks for bringing this to us
  • Thank God for technology! How could we have been able to share a soul like Esther's as easily as we can do! Esther, in you I found a gem especially in the area of relationships.
  • Love this interview so much. Wish I could find a lover and partner who embraces all these messages and advices: rituals, listen, keep relating as a lovers, check up on each other, do new things together... invest in the relationship basically... I’ll keep hopeful :)
  • @chloemarlon39
    wow thank you for your tips and tricks . by far the best video on this topic i guess. i've watched thousands of these videos and also read comments below the video and some ppl are recommending a natural enhancer spanish fly . actually i bought it and great results i have tosay
  • @viniciomattos
    Watching this video created a problem for me , now I’m in love with Esther 😃
  • This talk is so enlightening. Ways of being we can’t articulate-Esther brings it. Imagine 2 people in a partnership listening to this and sharing a determination to do well in relationship despite our childhoods. Very valuable interview. ☑️
  • What a interesting interview 👏 👌 wish I learn this years ago